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Q&A Wednesday: Erika, It Feels Like It’s Easier to Just Stay Fat! #youtube

by Erika Nicole Kendall

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You might wince at the title and the question, but I truly think that everyone has felt this way at one point in time or another, and that’s mostly because we think we’re doing a bit better than we actually are. Sometimes, it really takes a hard look at our planning and an even harder look at whether or not we’re truly sticking to our plans to help us determine what’s really going on. And, really, it gives you a sense of agency and an understanding that, yes, your choices do affect your progress. It’s empowering, and knowing all of that helps reinforce your ability to make necessary changes.

It really contributes to my belief that this whole “it’s just easier being fat” thinking is much more easily attributed to the fact that change is hard, not the fact that you’re not experiencing weight loss progress. Embracing change, and taking ownership for actually changing things, is tough. And, even with being tough, you have to dive in head first.

And it’s hard. And it sucks.

But that first time that you dive in, and you’re rewarded with progress? That’s all you need to know.

What do you think?

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Vanity May 1, 2013 - 11:11 AM

Thank you for being honest with the answer! Thank you for being compassionate with the answer. I’ve met people in the past who have reached their goals and then attacked others who are struggling to attain theirs. I applaud your compassion and your attitude and I thank you for positive and reaffirming attitude. I went a little too hard in a workout on Sunday and I am just now regaining range of motion in my legs. This video gave me the boost I needed to get back in it and train my body. Thank you! Thank you Thank you!!!!

Kitana May 1, 2013 - 11:37 AM

I haven’t watched the video yet, but I basically agree with the fact that change is hard. I was talking to my boyfriend the other day about change and I said it simply, habit is a strong mofo. The intiial grit and determination needed to break bad habits can be overwhelming, especially when they compound each other.

For years, I didn’t see any benefit in fitness. Even though I wanted to be thin and wear cuter clothes, I didn’t feel hindered by the fact that I was fat. I had relatively normal blood work, no problem getting boyfriends, and no problems getting jobs. It wasn’t until I ballooned to my highest weight and started having back pain that I made the decision to start getting fit. Pain was my catalyst, but I feel like I probably shouldn’t have had to get to that point to see that fitness would be good for me anyway. My priorities were just all out of whack.

In any case, it IS easier to stay fat… until it’s not. Until you’re spending your Christmas wearing those heat wraps because no matter which way you sit or lay, you still hurt. Or you can’t have sex with said boyfriend too well because you can’t find a position that works.

Erika Nicole Kendall May 1, 2013 - 11:39 AM

I feel really bad admitting this, but sex NOW as opposed to back then? I feel like a Cirque du Soleil performer in comparison. Lord.

sJea13 May 2, 2013 - 4:20 AM

With my renewed commitment to getting and STAYING fit, I was just marvelling last night about how flexible I am lately.

A few months ago, that pretzel-like position that I somehow contorted into would have had me feeling like I was in a trash compactor.

Last night, I was thinking, “Wow. How cool is it that my knees are this close to my face?!?” Yeah…I know…TMI…

Erika Nicole Kendall May 2, 2013 - 10:25 PM

Test your knee behind your shoulder.

Hit higher notes.

Thank your favorite fitness blogger, afterwards.

(She says “You’re welcome” in advance.)

Holly June 12, 2013 - 4:17 PM

You all are too. Funny I have had the opposite feeling. I was thinner now I am fat working everyday to get better. That is one thing that keeps me going. I remember being able to do things that I am now not able to do in bed and I want to go back to the way it used to be. But you all are hilarius

Alisa May 1, 2013 - 12:04 PM

I’ve definitely felt that. It’s easier to be fat. It’s cheaper to be fat. It’s less expensive to be fat. But being healthy and accidentally not fat anymore feels a whole lot better. I remember when I was so intimidated and afraid of weight training. And I would gaze at the weights at the gym and tremble with fear (not really, but kinda). And today, as I was squat pressing 100 lbs on those same weights that scared me a few months ago, I realized that this life is kinda cool. So even though it’s hard, and it’s expensive, and it’s inconvenient, I have no desire to ever go back to the life I once had.

kami May 1, 2013 - 4:51 PM

I love the advice today. I do give things a month to see if they are working or not for me. i am trying to stay on track with this lifestyle thing. Thanks for the support.

Liam Rubel May 2, 2013 - 7:06 AM

It really easy to stay fat or become fat but difficult to spent your life with this extra weight. As there are many situations in which you will realize why i don’t lose weight, why i can’t be fit like other people or why i can’t be like them.

Sheretha Edwards May 8, 2013 - 12:13 PM

It is not easier being fat then to work out. Even though you have to push yourself to get through the work out in the hour to two hours that you working out, it is much harder to carry around excess weight and feel like there is nothing that you can do because of the weight. Its all about the commitment that you make to yourself. A journey starts with one small step.

Shena Massenburg-Edwards May 15, 2013 - 1:46 PM

It is soooo true! It took me getting sick with a virus and my stomach being out of sorts to consider “clean eating” or changing the way that I eat and to exercise by walking (to start). My first goal was to stop drinking sodas. I am a Pepsi addict! I have been drinking at least 72 oz of water a day if not more. I feel less bloated and can see the difference already.

Sometimes it does feel easier to remain my size, but when I look at myself in the mirror, I know that I can’t keep living this way. It’s going to be a long journey, but I really think that I can do it this time around.

Kami September 29, 2013 - 10:06 AM

hey erika,
Currently I been on this journey for about 8 months but I am unhappy with my figure because even though my bra strap, waist , and thighs are smaller but the breast went from a F to an H getting bigger. During this time, I lost thirteen pounds. How do I change up my results. My goal is to lose more weight and drop back down to a f cup. Help me

Erika Nicole Kendall September 30, 2013 - 1:56 PM

I have a video coming up that will explain this better, but if you are losing weight to the point where your band size is affected but not your actual breast size, then you can expect to go down in your band, and go UP in your cup size, since cup size is relative to the width of your band. So that’s not necessarily a bad thing, especially if you’ve gone down 2-or-more inches in your band size, it’d make sense that your breasts are now two inches larger than your band.

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