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Q&A Wednesday: Does Sex Really Make Your Booty Big[ger]?

by Erika Nicole Kendall

Q: erika, have u ever heard the rumor that u can tell whether a girl is growing up too fast if her booty is big? is that true? does sex really make yor booty bigger?

Anyone else blushing right now? Just me? Oh. Okay.

The short answer, here, is “it depends.” Here’s why.

You know how muscles and muscle growth works, right? To engage your muscles means to use them and, essentially, challenge them. In order to use them, you have to flex – or squeeze – them. You squeeze them hard enough, for long enough, at a regular frequency and boom. You’ll experience muscle growth.

Think of the muscles that make up the lower back and upper thigh area. While there’s very little in the way of muscle that can make a booty poke out the way many of us are used to in our community, you can absolutely have the curve at the top that allows it to stick out, and you can build the muscles at the bottom to give it a nice shape and connection to your thighs.

That being said, there are definitely sexual positions that can encourage use of muscles in the thighs and the booty area that can help one develop larger, stronger muscles there. I’m not going to tell you which ones those are, though. You’ll have to do that digging yourself. Ahem.

At any rate, any time you are squeezing and releasing your muscles, you are using them and encouraging development. Doing it for an extended period of time encourages endurance; doing it hard enough encourages strength. It’s the difference between lifting a 10lb dumbbell 40 times and lifting a 40lb dumbbell 10 times. One requires – and encourages – more strength than the other.  Sex can help increase muscle because, if you’re doing the right positions, it’s a lot of repetitive movements that challenge the muscle and therefore encourage development.

It should also be noted that, if you experience difficulty when trying to be more adventurous in the bedroom, it very well may be because you don’t have enough muscle to help you sustain the movement. If you’re, ahem, on top and start experiencing pain in your thighs, remember that it’s the same kind of pain you’d experience after a challenging set of squats. So not only can sex help with fitness, but fitness can help with sex. It truly is a sport. Er… ahem.

So, in short, yes, sex can help your butt grow, but so can sitting in your car on the way to work, because you can squeeze and release those muscles there, too.

Now, if you don’t mind, I’ve got some, um, booty work to take care of. Happy flexing!

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Tremilla December 7, 2011 - 1:19 PM

Loved it lol

Ishaya December 7, 2011 - 2:58 PM

LOL! Why do I feel so enlightened right now!

Courtney Brown November 4, 2016 - 11:54 AM

Just love the comments

Chrissy December 7, 2011 - 3:20 PM

hahhahah! You are awesome. That explains my beautiful booty!

Kait December 7, 2011 - 3:34 PM

I adore you. 🙂

Karmen December 7, 2011 - 6:06 PM

*falls over, THUMP* LOLOLOLOL!

I’m a chocolate girl that turned beet red from reading this. But – thank you Mamah, this is an awesome read. I’ll be clicking some links – er, ah, ‘doing some research’ on this later tonight.

Tachae December 7, 2011 - 9:08 PM

I didn’t blush, I just giggled. Time to “squat” my way to a new booty lol…um..I’m for real though, JUST SQUATS. ehem…

Love this post.

NELL December 14, 2011 - 9:33 PM

Ahem…thanks for the hidden links…ahem LOL!!! This site is the best!

Erika Nicole Kendall December 15, 2011 - 10:22 AM

!!!!!!!!!! LMAO!

1beautifullymade January 14, 2012 - 10:04 PM

I am real slow, did not even notice the hidden links..lmbo!!!!

Brianna Leigh January 11, 2012 - 4:23 PM

Could it also have something to do with hormones being releasing during…um…yeah. Awkward.

christiana March 7, 2012 - 6:06 PM

LOL bahahaha made my day …

Octavia June 3, 2012 - 2:48 PM

Really enjoyed reading this! Now I know where the pain is coming from ahem..yea lol

Erica June 13, 2012 - 12:50 PM

These things are true, but don’t forget how genetics are involved. Also remember as a teen girl you attended a few parties and ‘dropping it like its hot’ enough times can work those same muscles mentioned. ‘Backing that thang up’ and a host of other dance moves are a real work out. There are some teen girls not sexually active, but are physically active. #just saying

Erika Nicole Kendall June 13, 2012 - 12:54 PM

This is, actually, another GREAT point.

AJ August 23, 2012 - 4:10 AM

This was great, it mostly made me laugh because at the young age of 17 I ran into an ex boyfriend who accused me of giving up the goods and was upset because I hadn’t with him, I asked why he thought this to which he replied because my butt was bigger. Hilarious, I had not given up the goods to anyone, my very large round butt is all genetics. Thanks for the, ahem, research.

keke3 January 11, 2013 - 10:56 PM

Thank u now I will be better in bed lol

Kendra chike April 10, 2013 - 10:32 AM

Lol….am loving this

Ericka May 2, 2013 - 10:36 AM

Giiiirl, I hollered at the line “I’m not going to tell you which ones those are, though…” Excellent post!

Erika Nicole Kendall May 2, 2013 - 10:24 PM

I’m just sayin’. I’m tryna help y’all out. I’m just thinkin’ about y’all. ROFL

HCT May 29, 2013 - 2:22 PM

Flatline**************************************** LMBO LMBO LMBO LMBO

Jadexa August 28, 2013 - 8:10 PM

It is a good calorie burner on rest days. Just sayin’ :-).

Beckie March 22, 2014 - 7:39 AM

Whaoo i like dis and i belive it will me good.

Glittuhpankyrang April 7, 2014 - 7:21 PM

I had an aunt that use to tell me I was going to be fast when I got older. Why? I have no idea. I was very shy and awkward. I barely went out. It use to make me sick. Anyway, along time ago, I was teen, I started working out and mentioned something about my behind getting bigger and more shapely from the exercise. She insinuated that she thought I got the butt from having sex. I was 16. People are crazy

BeaJae April 16, 2015 - 1:25 PM

Lol, such a well written post.

Tina Grant May 13, 2016 - 4:36 AM

Great reading

Kristina July 18, 2017 - 2:43 AM

Too many ahems and errs. We’re all grown and can talk about sex without awkward sounds.

Erika Nicole Kendall July 18, 2017 - 7:57 AM


It’s not about maturity. It’s about the fact that, for starters, when this was written, most people were still reading blogs on their work computers, and certain words and phrases trigger work filters and thereby prevented people from accessing the page.

Furthermore, *I* am certainly grown and use whatever language I like, but there’s absolutely nothing wrong with me respecting the fact that not everyone comes to a weight loss blog expecting to see frank language about sex and intimacy. I reject the idea that there’s something wrong with being mindful of people’s unique sensibilities.

Perhaps if my website was called “A Black Girl’s Guide to Fucking” and I used a bunch of language that implied I was being coy about the topic, then your comment might make sense.

Alas, it isn’t. So chill out, k?

sandra August 28, 2017 - 9:11 PM

I really enjoyed them lil facts.

K-at September 6, 2018 - 7:20 PM

Excercise makes u loose weight not gain weight its the eating after the sex chasing that same high with food that makes ur butt gain in size.

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