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Sexual Assault, Sexual Harassment, & Weight Gain: Facing Facts

I made the decision to pause on my post for the Clean Eating Boot Camp today because there’s something that, over the course of the past couple of days, has been bugging the daylights out of me. I may end up writing about this again tomorrow… just because I have really particular thoughts about this topic.

Yesterday, I had the pleasure of someone sending me this blog post regarding sexual harassment (or catcalling, as it is so lovingly called) on the street. It uses some extremely adult (and, in some cases, offensive) language, but I don’t believe that this means her point is any less valid. Go read it.

No, really. I’ll wait.

I want to highlight one passage from the post in particular:

Often times, the response is simply ‘oh, well’, the woman shouldn’t be walking down the street ‘like that’. Or she should expect to be harassed based on the way her body is built. Or that a woman should ‘appreciate’ the attention, as if a blatant sexual comment from a stranger is something to be desired. There are the occasional few who are capable of empathy and do go on to recognize how their behavior may be undesirable. Some simply say they are mocking what they see other men do. I ask do the women respond favorably and I know they don’t. So I wonder what makes Black men think this behavior should be perpetuated.

I’m tired of it. I’m tired of being considered community property just because some men think my skin color makes me a member of a secret harem and I owe them the time of day and some pussy and a blow job.

I want to be invisible. My daughter now dresses in boy clothes. Her sexuality has been a topic people feel they have the right to speak on ever since she was 5 years old and learned to dress herself.

No one asks why my daughter dresses to hide her gender; why she wears layers upon layers of clothes; why she wants to be invisible. She’s had to see me be harassed in the street her entire life. Why would she want to be seen?

Since we’re all coming out of hiding and keeping it real… I’ll go ahead and do the same. I am a victim of sexual harassment.

As a young girl in Cleveland, our childhood environment was full of kids going out of their way to be little adults. I can’t tell you the number of kids joining gangs, carrying knives and guns, cursing, making their dolls have sex, playing hide-and-go-get-it (please, don’t ask), and goodness knows what else I knew. There were some girls who loved that kind of attention (those girls also, by and large, became Mothers at an early age), but it made me uncomfortable. Extremely uncomfortable, simply because it was always taken too far… and it’s not a far leap from harassment to assault in a heightened situation. Gaining weight felt like solace to me… the more weight I gained, the less attractive I would be, the less likely I’d be to be harassed on the street.

It was strange because, by a stroke of luck, my parents decided to pack up and move us to Indiana. Actually, the best high school in the state… devoid of diversity yet full of girls who were thin, blonde and nothing like me. I didn’t feel like I was in competition with them for boy attention, not because none of them liked Black girls – that wasn’t true – but because I was too busy trying to be invisible to the attention I expected to get. They were competing with one another for the same group of boys.. meanwhile I was on my own just trying to hide.

Once I left for college, I was in a much more diverse environment. I wasn’t really ready for dating, didn’t know much about men, so I experienced my fair share of “college dating woes.” However, I had developed this unhealthy ability to hide who I was within what I ate. I had already learned how to not pay attention to my body or what I was doing to it. I had already gotten used to not being paid attention to – it was what I wanted. I learned a cycle of dysfunction that centered around not wanting attention… and had become so used to it that I couldn’t see what was wrong with it.

Obviously, since I have a child, I was able to (hopefully) date and procreate with someone, right? Of course, I eventually found a man who “loved me for who I was, not my outside appearance.” Keep that in mind. The relationship lasted a few years, but has since dissolved. I dated once more after that, but that was it. Right before that ended, I began to focus on my mental and physical health… and while I get that together, I’ve made the decision to remain celibate.

Now, as a single parent tasked with teaching my child all the things I was unable to learn about myself and my health and my body , I’m left with questions and assumptions that may not be easy to discuss… but I can assure you that they’re not easy to write.

First, I cannot help but wonder if this explains the disconnect between Black women and our bodies – the fact that a large number of us went out of our way to stop paying attention to our bodies because we were too busy trying to make ourselves less appealing to harassers. Furthermore, I notice that there’s a lot of discouragement during the ages where young girls are supposed to be learning about and understanding their bodies… to do exactly that. I wonder if we are, in a roundabout way, encouraging harmful behavior in our daughters because we are trying to discourage male attention… and beyond that, sexual harassment and assault?

I’ve been raped and assaulted; because I refused to acknowledge and accept a Black man’s advances. There are women who have been gunned down in the street because they refused to play along with a Black man’s attempt at flirting.

I’ve been called every combination of whores, bitches, cunts and skank.

I’ve been accused of, asked and requested to do any of a number of things with my body.

I’ve been threatened with sexual assault repeatedly by people I don’t know and who may or may not have been capable or willing to go through with their threat.

I’ve been spat on.

I’ve been hit.

I’ve been groped.

All after declining the verbal advances of a random Black man on a corner/block/street/ in a town that doesn’t much matter.

Think about that. How well can you relate to that? How prevalent do you think this is? How prevalent do you think this is where the majority of our young girls are being raised?

Secondly, if we spend so much time trying to discourage male attention, when are we teaching our daughters how to handle any male attention? I mean, I’m in the business of raising healthy young women. I want her to know how to, in one hand, appreciate a compliment while, in the other hand, being able to acknowledge unwanted attention. I want her to know that one has absolutely nothing to do with her, while the other has everything to do with someone acknowledging the beautiful person she is.

Really, I want to get into some good ol’ feminist theory and ask why it is easier for us as women to put ourselves through this than it is to correct the behavior of the men… or perhaps ask why no one sees this as another devaluation of Black girls and women (saying that it’s easier for a Black woman to just not “look that way” – you know, the way that we are genetically inclined to look –  than it is to just raise our boys better)… or maybe even ask how it became a mainstream principle that women were objectified and their respect came secondary to a man’s gratification… but I recognize that this post didn’t set out with that in mind.

I also want to know why we seek out men who will “love us for who we are,” as if we, in a way, are afraid of a man actually appreciating how we look. Or are we unable to understand that a man can healthily appreciate a woman’s appearance without objectifying her? Orrrrr do we simply not want to be held accountable for our appearance, so we want a man who won’t hold us accountable for it? I mean, let’s keep it real – any person who stays with us stays with the desire to love us for who we are… that’s a default. Why don’t we want more than that? Why is it so wrong to ask for more? Ingrained devaluation?

Can I also see if anyone else sees this as blaming the “victim?” If we’re allowing ourselves to “hide” the beautiful people we are because we’re afraid of something we shouldn’t have to endure in the first place? We’re blaming ourselves for the crap happening in the first place… instead of placing the blame on the perpetrators of the harassment. And if we’re trying to keep our daughter from “being fass,” then aren’t we blaming them in advance? Don’t we, really, just perpetuate this idea that women control everything… and men should be held responsible for nothing? Ladies, I know it’s flattering to think that your cupcakes and your ho-ho are that “powerful,” but as you can see… it’s not.

Someday, we’ll have to learn that sexual harassment, much like sexual assault and rape, are about the perpetrator trying to flex their power on the victim. It isn’t about how you look… it’s about the perpetrator going out of their way to reinforce the idea that they have some kind of power over you. What power, you ask? The power that society bestows men by default… but again, that’s feminist theory for you. Again, I know we like to think that we are the center of everything, but really.. this is one of those times where we need to let that go. Taking blame for a man’s bad behavior to the point where we harm ourselves to “avoid it?” As if fat women are never victims of sexual harassment or assault or, dare I say… rape?

Don’t worry – in this post, I am largely speaking of myself. And in my heart of hearts, I believe that I was able to move beyond this mentality because I was forced to – my health was on the line. I had a child to raise alone, and feared not being around to do it. But now that so many of us are succumbing to the disease chain of poor health… will we finally do what we need to do?

By | 2017-06-10T11:44:29+00:00 August 15th, 2013|Body Image, My Journey, Social Construct|83 Comments

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The proud leader of the #bgg2wlarmy, Erika Nicole Kendall writes health, fitness, nutrition, body image and beauty, and more here at #bgg2wl. After losing over 150lbs, Kendall became a personal trainer certified in fitness nutrition, women's fitness, and weight loss from the National Academy of Sports Medicine, and crtified in sports nutrition by Precision Nutrition. She now lives in New York with her husband and children, and is working on her 6th and 7th certifications because lol why not.

83 Comments

  1. Kirsten September 17, 2010 at 11:23 AM - Reply

    This was almost too close to a very real and raw wound that I have carefully buried.

    The unacknowledged source of excess weight on Black Women’s bodies could almost certainly be traced back to an unconscious need to become less desireable, less physically appealing, less of a target.

    I KNOW that this has been an unconscious, unacknowledged connection to my excess weight. I recall learning that the panniculus, the apron gut, also known as a “booty-do” is often found on those who have experienced sexual abuse.

    I wonder if there has ever been a study of overweight Black women who have also dealt with some type of sexual violence.

    How brave of you to address this.

    • Erika September 17, 2010 at 12:34 PM - Reply

      I’ve seen that before Kirsten, and I’m wondering if the sexual abuse/apron gut connection is driven by the foods most of us cling to WHEN we emotionally eat, and the immediate affect they have on our tummies. Hmmm… another interesting topic!

      Thank you for your kind words. 🙂

    • CeCe August 18, 2012 at 2:48 PM - Reply

      Wow! What a post and all of the comments hit home for me too. There are so many things to address. So here it goes.
      1. My Story-I too am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I was molested by an older boy at my babysitter’s home when I was 3 or 4. This was not “kids play” as the boy was much older and bigger than me and I had no idea what he was doing. I didn’t want to go into the basement with all of the kids because I didn’t want it to happen again, but I had no words to really describe it. I remember crying until the babysitter put me on “punishment” and made me stay in her room by myself. It was a relief and I felt safe. I doubt I said anything to my Mom about this at the time.
      I was further abused by my stepfather, both physically and sexually. I convinced myself that it didn’t affect me because I hated him and I tried to minimize it and put it behind me. It is so clear to me now when I look back at my childhood pictures, how I used food to comfort myself and hide from male attention. When I started to develop breasts, it seemed that everyone had to comment it on it. I had already felt that something was “wrong” with me and that I was “bad” because of the way I was being treated at home, but this additional attention caused me a great deal of embarrassment and humiliation. The interesting thing is that I think it is my most authentic self to be outgoing and social. These types of experiences however, have made me self-conscious and afraid for most of my life with my “real” self showing up only on occasion. I could go into the course of my dating history, but let’s just say that there was always an underlying fear of being physically hurt if I “made him angry”-which comes directly from being in a home with domestic violence, or being used for sex, which I think comes both from those early experiences, cultural messages and early consensual and non consensual sexual experiences. At 43, I am still dealing with the consequences of being sexually abused and the various forms of sexual harassment and subsequent sexual assault that many women have discussed here. I certainly don’t have all the answers and it is not an easy or short road to emotional health and well being-and frankly I think this is more about a lifelong PRACTICE of self care and self love-but I keep taking the steps, sometimes very small steps, to reclaim and create the life I want to live.

      2. The weight-I have struggled with weight since I was six years old, but do believe that I will “get there” by focusing on that self care, self love road which will reconnect me with my body and teach me to treat my body with love and respect. Part of that is feeding it in a healthy way and moving it in a healthy way. I have tried so many diets and weight-loss schemes, that I have failed to maintain. Usually in the face of some type of stress or trigger that makes me feel unsafe. So again, it’s the little steps to health that will make the greatest impact. Websites like this help and so does support. So thank you Erika for sharing your experience.

      3. Now to the men-So often discussions like this melt into a debate about how women are always expecting the worst from men and how telling our REAL stories furthers the divide between us and men. That somehow we are CREATING a rift by discussing the REAL ways we have been assaulted by men. I cannot even begin to express the anger I feel by this active attempt to silence us for the sake of men “looking good”. It’s dismissive and very disrespectful. The reality is that men globally are raping, beating, selling and disenfranchising women on a daily basis. This is real and is the ACTION of men and not the responsibility of women to keep quiet about it. For the MEN-if you think this makes you look bad, the address the men engaged in this behavior and DO everything in your power to stop it and to educate other men so that the cycle stops. Then, we will have gone from “looking” good to BEING good.

      4. To other survivors-Even though we don’t always believe it, we are worth doing whatever it takes to heal and live the lives we want for ourselves. Lives filled with love, support, authentic friendships, fulfilling and nurturing work, etc. Baby steps yall!

  2. Sibyl September 17, 2010 at 12:10 PM - Reply

    Excellent!

    • Erika September 17, 2010 at 12:34 PM - Reply

      Thank you. 🙂

    • Janine October 30, 2012 at 6:40 PM - Reply

      Thank you so much for sharing your experiences, CeCe 🙂

  3. Marcus September 17, 2010 at 12:20 PM - Reply

    I found this blog through twitter. I am a black man. I feel the pain that you feel. I have (female) relatives that I have been able to get an inside perspective on this. As a writer, I have produced some songs, poems and essays about how to make it better as well as how to demand better forms of manhood.
    There is a concern though… Try (respectfully) not to deepen the wedge between black women and black men. I know that your victim (personal experience) sees a black face. But, your natural womanhood should see a black face as well. My experience is that in which I never get to meet a real black woman. I always have to go through her evil twin first. I can appreciate that to a certain degree. It’s just tiring and discouraging because we find that this defense isn’t used to filter out the bad ones. It’s designed to keep everybody out.
    I’m doing my part to heal our women with words and the absence of “sexual harassment”. But it hasn’t really helped my personal life all that much either. Yeah it hurts you to be mistreated, but remember…it hurts us (real men) to try to get to you. We have to find the balance.

    • Erika September 17, 2010 at 12:32 PM - Reply

      Thank you for your comment.

      I have to be honest with you. Telling me to not deepen the wedge between men and women smacks of “stop putting our business on front street.”

      A post like this, for me, is in “the business” of helping women. Helping women includes helping them not only understand where feelings of inadequacy might’ve originated, but also helping them to identify issues this might’ve caused them in their relationships as well as helping them stop hurting themselves in the meantime. I am a woman who has been there – I no longer have an “evil twin” (that you felt made enough of a difference in this discussion to bring up. Why?) because I have properly compartmentalized and rid myself of these emotions. I am free. I’m hoping that other women can do the same.

      In the meantime, let’s keep it funky: I have very little interest in playing the PR role for men. I specifically wrote the following:

      Secondly, if we spend so much time trying to discourage male attention, when are we teaching our daughters how to handle any male attention? I mean, I’m in the business of raising healthy young women. I want her to know how to, in one hand, appreciate a compliment while, in the other hand, being able to acknowledge unwanted attention. I want her to know that one has absolutely nothing to do with her, while the other has everything to do with someone acknowledging the beautiful person she is.

      because I believe an ability to better interact with men will help our relationships and how we approach them. Going out of my way to “not deepen a wedge” isn’t going to happen here… especially when, instead of helping to acknowledge the problems in the community, you opt to sneak in a dig at Black women.

    • Deborrah Cooper August 11, 2011 at 3:51 PM - Reply

      This is a theory that I’ve often put forth over the years. There is no other reason that the percentage of overweight/obese Black females is so disproportionately high in the U.S. Statistics by the CDC say that 4 out of 5 African American women are considered either overweight or obese. Surely that is not genetics or food but underlying emotional turmoil.

      I work in the relationships field and have interviewed thousands and thousands of women over the years. Though statistics say that 1 out of 4 women have been sexually assaulted or raped by the time she is 18, I disagree. My casual and unscientific but honest discussions with women cause me to believe the number is more like 3.5 out of 4. The young Black woman that escapes any sort of sexual assault at the hands of a Black male is the exception rather than the norm. Even a Black girl’s own father and grandfather must be viewed with suspicion.

      The comment posted above by Marcus was very disturbing and had me SMH. Can Black men ever take an issue that has to do with women and not turn it around to be about them? Black women are discussing awful experiences that happened to them in childhood and through their teens at the hands of adult males. Yet all he can do is come in and give orders and cry about how the verbal assaults little girls experienced at the hands of beastly males makes HIS life uncomfortable and challenging. Are you kidding me right now? Wow.

      All in all, excellent post and responses ladies. Keep up the great work.

  4. TKOEd September 17, 2010 at 12:50 PM - Reply

    Great post. You raise some great questions I’ve never heard before in your last few graphs. Thank you.

    • Erika September 17, 2010 at 8:13 PM - Reply

      No, thank you for coming through. 🙂

  5. Penni Brown September 17, 2010 at 2:09 PM - Reply

    To the men that read this – while you might ‘understand’ how this constant harrassment, molestation and devaluation might affect women; to make statements like ‘i have to go through her evil twin first’ contributes to the devaluation. What I hear is ‘yeah yeah, that’s sucks that you went through that, but can you please get over it because its now affecting MY life and MY relationships.’

    What I want to hear is men, black men especially, rushing to protect and defend me from the foolishness. Hold your brothers accountable when they mistreat and are rude to women. Its not enough to shake your head and look away when you see your boys get out of line. Be PROactive and pull dude up by the coat tails. The reason many of us are like M&Ms is because we’re constantly having to protect ourselves. No other group of women has to do that job solely on their own. Its tiring, and frustrating and damaging.

    This will never stop until men tell other men to stop. Maybe then, we’ll feel safe enough to wear our gooey centers on the outside.

    • Erika September 17, 2010 at 2:14 PM - Reply

      THANK YOU!

      I’m like five minutes from having to write ANOTHER post because that one comment struck such an ire with me. It just reeked of “a woman cannot heal if it comes at the expense of putting men on blast.” I don’t think so. I love y’all, but my needs absolutely come first… specifically in a situation where I don’t feel protected, or a situation where I don’t feel like anyone is looking out for me. I’m not that chick. LOLOL

      • Pat Watson April 20, 2012 at 11:37 AM - Reply

        I got on here because I was hoping that someone was writing about what I have experienced and can nowhelp me figure out how to get past the consequential difficulty losing weight. I am a white girl (or was), but I developed early and was very curvy by 7th grade. I have spent my life feeling like public property to men and being overtly and covertly hated by other women. I’ve felt like there must be a pot of gold inside my vagina that men can reach and get rich because of the way the treated me. I recall not knowing what to do with the attention, feeling afraid like I was about to be eaten up, and wanting to hide. I had no idea that it was prevelant and threatening in the lives of black girls and women. I feel sad to think of it.
        Beyond the sexual harassment, I remember being told by my father that if I was beautiful, smart and successful, no one would like me. So, in the last year of my doctoral program I gained 50 pounds fast.
        I love that you gave this the “blame the victim” frame. I never thought about that. And, the gift of that spoiled man’s complaint is that I too felt pissed. Right now, I don’t care if it makes his life harder. And, I agree, “confront your brothers” and start fixing the source of the problem if you don’t like the outcome.
        I feel my anger rising and I am glad. I want to enjoy good health, a body that moves easily, a body that fits into the clothes that fill the rest of the store, and a brain that knows that their inappropriate gestures are not about me.
        Oh, thank you for your blog and the many strong voices who have replied.
        I am deeply grateful.
        Pat

    • Susan February 20, 2013 at 3:47 AM - Reply

      OMG, YES – THIS! Not just for Black women but for ALL women!

    • Candace November 30, 2013 at 3:48 PM - Reply

      It’s not just black men, but all men need to be held accountable, and stop acting like a bunch of little boys that are part of a club. Until the silent majority becomes vocal and willing to step up to the plate to protect women, the insecure men that need to hurt women in order to feel powerful will proliferate.

  6. Kim September 17, 2010 at 5:11 PM - Reply

    *sigh* I hate to admit it, but one of the reasons that I fear losing weight is the return of cat calls and rude remarks from men on the street. As a “big girl” men tend to ignore me on the street . . . every once in a while I’ll get “Hey, Big Girl!” or “Look at them big legs!” (which is oh so flattering, let me tell you *smh*) but generally I am invisible . . . which I don’t mind . . . except when the Denzel look-a-like comes strolling down the street.

    • Erika September 17, 2010 at 6:27 PM - Reply

      That’s another element to this that needs to be addressed – as mean as it may sound, it is still a reality – that in our attempts to make ourselves less attractive as a means of hiding from harassers, we’ve also managed to hide ourselves from potential mates. The very ones who dare to have visual preferences for their potential significant others.

      Whether that’s a “good” thing or a “bad” thing, I’d rather leave for another post… but it’s a reality that does exist. Sigh.

    • Kimberly September 18, 2013 at 10:38 PM - Reply

      WOW! This ENTIRE post is me but this response?!? Definitely me. I keep sabotaging my weight loss progress and I think this is the root of it all. Fear of men. I had completely forgotten about my purposeful weight gain in college because I didn’t want to deal with the attention. I was literally trying to be more holy and sanctified and figured weight gain would keep the guys away. WOW. thanks for helping me confront my twisted, confused thinking that I tucked away for years. Let the healing begin.

  7. Msladee September 17, 2010 at 6:02 PM - Reply

    This post and the linked post made me tear up a little. I can definitely relate to Ms. Jones. Yes, there is a correlation between sexual harassment/assault/rape and weight gain. Here comes the inevitable question (or the at least a question that always arrives when such theory is proposed): Well, (insert random person) was raped and they didn’t get fat/lash out/make themselves invisible. Why can’t the others just be/think/feel like her? *Sigh* Tangents like this are also part of the reason we NEVER address the correlation. Every conversation seems to shade the relationship. I’m so glad you and Ms. Jones are able to bring this real issue to light and address it head-on.

    • Erika September 17, 2010 at 6:17 PM - Reply

      Well, you brought up an important question… let me try to offer up an answer.

      First, just because there’s a correlation doesn’t mean that there is direct cause and effect, meaning just because sexual trauma occurs… doesn’t always mean that it will lead directly to weight gain. Women respond to sexual trauma in different ways – they may become promiscuous, they may become cutters, they may self-medicate with pills, they may become drug users, they may self-medicate through food, they may choose to hide themselves with “extra padding.”

      All of those things can exist without sexual trauma causing it. All of those things can exist independently of one another, and there are some women who wind up experiencing a number of those “effects” due to an inability to deal with the trauma healthily. That’s the key, here – whether or not one has the means or support system to cope. Not all of us are so lucky.

      And really, I couldn’t care less what anyone else says – I received enough messages publicly and privately about this post to let me know that I wasn’t alone in my feelings or thoughts. That’s not a shot at you, but at that line of thinking that says it’s okay to erase or ignore a woman’s history and very real experiences because “others succeeded where YOU failed.” Get outta heeeeeeeeeeeere. LOL

  8. Sarah September 17, 2010 at 6:47 PM - Reply

    Thinking about this whole issue, to me, street harrassment is only the newest variation on the sexual trauma that Black women have been going through for literally hundreds of years in this country as a part of slavery and its aftermath. This desire to stay invisible seems to go so deep, sometimes. It’s a hard thing to break.

    • Erika September 17, 2010 at 7:15 PM - Reply

      You know, someone else brought up this angle to me… that the devaluation is a learned characteristic from slavery.. but she was relating it more to another aspect of emotional weight gain. Either way… these are powerful thoughts.

      I’m glad y’all are so freaking smart.

      • A.Marie August 29, 2013 at 4:06 PM - Reply

        It’s interesting…this thread resonated with me and reminded me of The Wind Done Gone by Alice Walker. One passage of the book talks about how Mammy was once Mr. O’Hara’s mistress and she gained weight to become less attractive to him. I had always seen Mammy as such an asexual character and it is interesting and troubling to think that it was intentional. When I think about my own struggles with losing weight, I wonder if I am also subconsciously harming my body in the name of self-preservation.

  9. Inkognegro September 17, 2010 at 8:14 PM - Reply

    Nevermind the “wedge” between Black men and Black women. These stories just don’t get the proper exposure. When you bounce from individual story to individual story it is too easy to make excuses.

    The excuses have to stop.

    The boys will be boys minimization has to stop.

    I’ve never raised a hand to a woman but I bear the responsibility of protecting my sisters.

    I cannot merely wallow in my own self-righteousness, I must be vigilant in denouncing the pathology that allows for this kind of behavior to endure.

    Thank you for this post. It is so necessary.

    • Erika September 17, 2010 at 8:26 PM - Reply

      “The boys will be boys minimization has to stop. ”

      This!!!!!

      • Pam August 18, 2012 at 1:27 PM - Reply

        Hi Erika,

        You hit the nail on the head. Sexual harrassment and abuse have been major factors in my 30+ years of struggling to manage my weight, first as an adolescent and then as an adult. I see my adolescent students having to fend off disrespectful and abusive commentary and behavior from boys all of the time. I always ask the little boys (young men) how they would feel if someone spoke to their mothers or sisters they way these boys speak to their classmates. Sometimes they get it; most times they don’t.

  10. Golden Silence September 17, 2010 at 8:22 PM - Reply

    There is a guy on the link you post who is trying to make the conversation about men and their egos. As usual, there are some men who refuse to see street harassment as a problem and daily threat for most women. To the men who care about this issue and realize it’s a problem, I commend you.

    Thank you for sharing your story. I hope we live to see the day when street harassment is permanently a thing of the past.

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