Q&A Wednesday: Does Sex Really Make Your Booty Big[ger]? | A Black Girl's Guide To Weight Loss

Q&A Wednesday: Does Sex Really Make Your Booty Big[ger]?


Originally posted 2011-12-07 12:54:13.

Q: erika, have u ever heard the rumor that u can tell whether a girl is growing up too fast if her booty is big? is that true? does sex really make yor booty bigger?

Anyone else blushing right now? Just me? Oh. Okay.

The short answer, here, is “it depends.” Here’s why.

You know how muscles and muscle growth works, right? To engage your muscles means to use them and, essentially, challenge them. In order to use them, you have to flex – or squeeze – them. You squeeze them hard enough, for long enough, at a regular frequency and boom. You’ll experience muscle growth.

Think of the muscles that make up the lower back and upper thigh area. While there’s very little in the way of muscle that can make a booty poke out the way many of us are used to in our community, you can absolutely have the curve at the top that allows it to stick out, and you can build the muscles at the bottom to give it a nice shape and connection to your thighs.

That being said, there are definitely sexual positions that can encourage use of muscles in the thighs and the booty area that can help one develop larger, stronger muscles there. I’m not going to tell you which ones those are, though. You’ll have to do that digging yourself. Ahem.

At any rate, any time you are squeezing and releasing your muscles, you are using them and encouraging development. Doing it for an extended period of time encourages endurance; doing it hard enough encourages strength. It’s the difference between lifting a 10lb dumbbell 40 times and lifting a 40lb dumbbell 10 times. One requires – and encourages – more strength than the other.  Sex can help increase muscle because, if you’re doing the right positions, it’s a lot of repetitive movements that challenge the muscle and therefore encourage development.

It should also be noted that, if you experience difficulty when trying to be more adventurous in the bedroom, it very well may be because you don’t have enough muscle to help you sustain the movement. If you’re, ahem, on top and start experiencing pain in your thighs, remember that it’s the same kind of pain you’d experience after a challenging set of squats. So not only can sex help with fitness, but fitness can help with sex. It truly is a sport. Er… ahem.

So, in short, yes, sex can help your butt grow, but so can sitting in your car on the way to work, because you can squeeze and release those muscles there, too.

Now, if you don’t mind, I’ve got some, um, booty work to take care of. Happy flexing!

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The proud leader of the #bgg2wlarmy, Erika Nicole Kendall writes health, fitness, nutrition, body image and beauty, and more here at #bgg2wl. After losing over 150lbs, Kendall became a personal trainer certified in fitness nutrition, women's fitness, and weight loss from the National Academy of Sports Medicine. She now lives in New York with her family, and is working on her 4th, 5th and 6th certificates.


  1. Tremilla

    December 7, 2011 at 1:19 PM

    Loved it lol

  2. Ishaya

    December 7, 2011 at 2:58 PM

    LOL! Why do I feel so enlightened right now!

  3. Chrissy

    December 7, 2011 at 3:20 PM

    hahhahah! You are awesome. That explains my beautiful booty!

  4. Kait

    December 7, 2011 at 3:34 PM

    I adore you. :)

  5. Karmen

    December 7, 2011 at 6:06 PM

    *falls over, THUMP* LOLOLOLOL!

    I’m a chocolate girl that turned beet red from reading this. But – thank you Mamah, this is an awesome read. I’ll be clicking some links – er, ah, ‘doing some research’ on this later tonight.

  6. Tachae

    December 7, 2011 at 9:08 PM

    I didn’t blush, I just giggled. Time to “squat” my way to a new booty lol…um..I’m for real though, JUST SQUATS. ehem…

    Love this post.

  7. NELL

    December 14, 2011 at 9:33 PM

    Ahem…thanks for the hidden links…ahem LOL!!! This site is the best!

    • Erika Nicole Kendall

      December 15, 2011 at 10:22 AM

      !!!!!!!!!! LMAO!

    • 1beautifullymade

      January 14, 2012 at 10:04 PM

      I am real slow, did not even notice the hidden links..lmbo!!!!

  8. Brianna Leigh

    January 11, 2012 at 4:23 PM

    Could it also have something to do with hormones being releasing during…um…yeah. Awkward.

  9. christiana

    March 7, 2012 at 6:06 PM

    LOL bahahaha made my day …

  10. Octavia

    June 3, 2012 at 2:48 PM

    Really enjoyed reading this! Now I know where the pain is coming from ahem..yea lol

  11. Erica

    June 13, 2012 at 12:50 PM

    These things are true, but don’t forget how genetics are involved. Also remember as a teen girl you attended a few parties and ‘dropping it like its hot’ enough times can work those same muscles mentioned. ‘Backing that thang up’ and a host of other dance moves are a real work out. There are some teen girls not sexually active, but are physically active. #just saying

  12. AJ

    August 23, 2012 at 4:10 AM

    This was great, it mostly made me laugh because at the young age of 17 I ran into an ex boyfriend who accused me of giving up the goods and was upset because I hadn’t with him, I asked why he thought this to which he replied because my butt was bigger. Hilarious, I had not given up the goods to anyone, my very large round butt is all genetics. Thanks for the, ahem, research.

  13. keke3

    January 11, 2013 at 10:56 PM

    Thank u now I will be better in bed lol

  14. Kendra chike

    April 10, 2013 at 10:32 AM

    Lol….am loving this

  15. Ericka

    May 2, 2013 at 10:36 AM

    Giiiirl, I hollered at the line “I’m not going to tell you which ones those are, though…” Excellent post!

    • Erika Nicole Kendall

      May 2, 2013 at 10:24 PM

      I’m just sayin’. I’m tryna help y’all out. I’m just thinkin’ about y’all. ROFL

  16. HCT

    May 29, 2013 at 2:22 PM

    Flatline**************************************** LMBO LMBO LMBO LMBO

  17. Jadexa

    August 28, 2013 at 8:10 PM

    It is a good calorie burner on rest days. Just sayin’ :-).

  18. Beckie

    March 22, 2014 at 7:39 AM

    Whaoo i like dis and i belive it will me good.

  19. Glittuhpankyrang

    April 7, 2014 at 7:21 PM

    I had an aunt that use to tell me I was going to be fast when I got older. Why? I have no idea. I was very shy and awkward. I barely went out. It use to make me sick. Anyway, along time ago, I was teen, I started working out and mentioned something about my behind getting bigger and more shapely from the exercise. She insinuated that she thought I got the butt from having sex. I was 16. People are crazy

  20. BeaJae

    April 16, 2015 at 1:25 PM

    Lol, such a well written post.

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