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Q&A Wednesday: Can We Talk About Booty Implants, Please?

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Okay, family, I need to host a discussion, here.

I talk. A lot. About fit booties. I praise them because, quite frankly, I need to. I have to reinforce, for myself, that the goal is always to embrace my more fit frame, and accept that the donk will no longer look the way it looked. I’m at a point where I’m comfy with that. Besides, if you’re coming down from a larger frame to a smaller one, you can’t really expect to have the same figure as someone who has always been smaller. The muscle, really, is among the few things you can absolutely count on to sculpt your body.

That being said…I keep seeing these articles about booty implants and how they are going awry out here:

Police say they’ve questioned a person in the case of a British woman who died after receiving cosmetic injections in her buttocks at a hotel near Philadelphia International Airport.

Lt. Ray Evers said police issued a search warrant Tuesday night at the Bergen County, N.J., home of a woman they think set up the appointment online. The woman was questioned and was being considered a witness.

A 20-year-old British student died early Tuesday after she apparently flew to Philadelphia to get silicone injections into her buttocks at a Hampton Inn in southwest Philly.

Police executed a search warrant at the Hampton Inn on Bartram Avenue Tuesday afternoon with suspicions that a woman had performed butt implant procedures inside rooms, sources say.

Suspicions of these hotel-room medical procedures came about after Claudia Seye Aderotimi died around 1:30 a.m. after being taken to a Delaware County hospital, according to court documents.

Aderotimi had a butt enhancement procedure around noon Monday and started to complain of chest pain around midnight, police say.

This was the second time Aderotimi turned to this woman for buttocks enhancement, sources say. Aderotimi and her friend — who had her hips done this time around — had gotten butt-enhancement procedures last November, sources say.

It wasn’t clear if the woman who administered the injections was licensed to do so. She left after the procedures and wasn’t there when Aderotimi began feeling chest pain, sources said.

The woman also did a good job covering their tracks, police sources say.

The preliminary cause of death is attributed to silicone injected into the Aderotimi’s vascular system, ultimately stopping her heart, according to the Delaware County medical examiner, but it is “pending further studies.” The autopsy is not yet complete.

Four female students from England, including Aderotimi, traveled to Philadelphia on Saturday and planned to stay a week. Two of the women were here for support and to go to a New York City birthday party while the other two stayed in Philly to have cosmetic procedures performed, say police.

One woman paid $1,800 to get hip injections while the Aderotimi paid an unknown amount to have her buttocks enhanced, sources say.

There’s also this one:

And I’m asking y’all, because, quite frankly, I’m un-knowing. I just don’t know. What is going on out there? I mean, I think I understand the context under which a transgendered woman would think this is a deal – $700 for “the curves that will make me look like the woman I want to be” – but a 20 year old died because of this. Apparently, there are celebrities out there getting these? Who is getting butt injections? Why? Is this really common? How are y’all spotting these? Can someone explain this to me? What are your thoughts on them? ‘Cause your girl is… um… in awe.

The proud leader of the #bgg2wlarmy, Erika Nicole Kendall writes health, fitness, nutrition, body image and beauty, and more here at #bgg2wl. After losing over 150lbs, Kendall became a personal trainer certified in fitness nutrition, women's fitness, and weight loss from the National Academy of Sports Medicine. She now lives in New York with her family, and is working on her 4th, 5th and 6th certificates.

76 Comments

  1. Hope

    April 11, 2012 at 1:17 PM

    0_o……..

  2. Michalet

    April 11, 2012 at 1:22 PM

    It’s called foolishness and ridiculousness. This new cultural persuit of falseness is hindering spiritual growth. It is getting in the way of personal depth. Cheeks, azzez, breasts, calves, pecs (for men) lashes, extensions, lip injections, ……. Unless it is done to fix something medical/ life altering, I feel it’s unnecessary. Idle hands and minds listening to people tell them that God made a mistake with them. Smdh

    • Curlstar

      April 11, 2012 at 4:52 PM

      Thank you and goodnight! (high-five to Michalet)

  3. Alexandrea Ward

    April 11, 2012 at 1:46 PM

    I think that some of the stars are using reputable doctors for this though. Those that have gotten in trouble over this sounds like they’re using a mixture of some of everything just to get the butt and hips to look bigger. I wouldn’t do it, and I still don’t understand why someone would. I guess it’s all about how you view yourself and your self-esteem because there is no way that I would allow someone to talk me into doing something like that!

  4. Dee

    April 11, 2012 at 2:11 PM

    Call me what you want but I have always wanted butt implants. Not because the stars are getting them but because I have always been un happy with the shape of my butt. And exersise can only do so much. I go to the gym everyday and do something butt related all the time. I have gotten firmer but not the shape. So I have read and done a lot of research and if I get the money I would do it in a heartbeat. Now I don’t know why this girl would go into a hotel room to get injected. That seems a bit foolish.

    • Erika Nicole Kendall

      April 11, 2012 at 6:54 PM

      Mama, listen. If you’re not getting that high, round shape with your booty? You’re not working it hard enough or often enough. And that’s real. I’m speaking from experience. I’ve put three inches on my backside ALONE just from lifting weights.

      Sorry.

      • trina mcclendon

        April 11, 2012 at 8:18 PM

        Erika…can you please tell me what you did? I would never consider butt injections, but my butt needs work. I lost a lot of weight and my butt is not cute…would like it a little bigger!!!

        thanks!

      • Noel

        April 11, 2012 at 8:25 PM

        I have nice hip and thighs with a flat butt. I have thought about butt implants just tolook better in my clothes…squats and lunges arent helping me

      • Angela S

        May 30, 2012 at 8:18 PM

        While I love your column and advise, your information to the woman about not having a round high booty is because she’s exercising incorrectly is just plain wrong. There are all types of anatomy and some women just have wide, flat, behinds. Yes if they work out correctly and consistantly they will develop a firm, tight, lifted booty – but it will still be flat. That’s just the way it is and nothing they can do with a weight or a ball or any workout routine will make them have a behind like Kim Kardashian. There are some things only a skilled surgeon’s scapel can improve upon.Yes,its’ sad and we’d like to think it’s not true. But the reality is, it is. Now maybe the person who wrote does need a better workout routine, but from life experience, exercise experience and medical experience I know this to be true. I just don’t want her to be made to feel badly because she was born lacking certain physicial characteristics.

        • Erika Nicole Kendall

          May 30, 2012 at 10:12 PM

          “Just plain wrong?”

          It’s not.. and I’d like to know what kind of “medical experience” negates basic physiology and exercise science. You build height by strengthening the muscles in your glutes and your obliques, as well as by burning the fat that rests around the muffin-top area, the love handle area and the quads. Those muscles NATURALLY grow round as you challenge and strengthen them. No one is talking about building a Kardashian booty. We’re talking about the kind of booty that can be built with exercise and weight training. Period.

          Just because YOU haven’t done it doesn’t mean it can’t be done, and I’ma need y’all to stop perpetuating that foolishness. It’s been done and keeps being done every day… step it up instead of spreading falsehoods and perpetuating myths about what people can and can not do with their bodies. Damn.

          • KareBareStare

            July 18, 2012 at 1:26 PM

            I actually agree with both of you. With proper exercise one can achieve a nice, firm butt. However, I think the kind of butt that women are craving is the more Kim Kardashian, J. Lo, or as I like to call them Super Booty. As some point genetics does come in to play with physiology. As firm as your butt will get Erika you will never have one like Nicki Minaj (which is also manufactured.) Not to say that is what the young woman desires but it definitely is not attainable without a little assistance.
            As someone who has gone up and down the scale my whole life, I have seen my figure change. When I was dancing and working out four times a week my butt was firm but not voluptuous. Lift is great but some women just want those huge posteriors. Sadly, that shape is not for everyone.

          • Erika Nicole Kendall

            July 18, 2012 at 2:08 PM

            “…which is also manufactured.”

            Can we acknowledge the issue surrounding this?

            People are actively seeking that which they KNOW is artificially manufactured.

            I just want to make sure that we reflect on this.

          • Monique

            January 16, 2013 at 4:28 AM

            I can attest that I wanted that manufactured booty because my man admired the Thelma’s and Serena’s and the whomever else’s and my butt is just flat. Is it foolishness? Of course. But why do women EVER hurt themselves to look a certain way? Because they do not feel good about themselves. Not just in a, “I need to get healthy kinda way.” But in a, “I/my relationship/my life will be all better if only I had (fill in the blank),” kinda way. And I admit that I was one and it us still taking me time to get over that (read: over him). That’s just my truth and I think it is truth for other women as well.

          • Erika Nicole Kendall

            January 16, 2013 at 11:44 AM

            Whether or not its “their truth” doesn’t absolve it or them of being dangerously wrong, and in admitting that this is “their truth” we must never act like or think that it’s “okay” just because its true.

            Lots of people have risky or dangerous or harmful “truths,” but we don’t normalize those; this should be no different.

          • Monique

            January 17, 2013 at 3:42 PM

            No no no. Just explaining why one would WANT to get a butt implant in the first place. Never should anyone go to these lengths or extremes, whatsoever! I can understand the feelings one may have to make them want to go to a doctor to achieve a look that one may feel is unattainable otherwise. The feeling is valid and needs to be dealt with and, true, not with a dr’s scalpel. But it is not an INEXCUSABLE feeling and something one needs to be held accountable for as if THEY have done something terrible.

          • Erika Nicole Kendall

            January 17, 2013 at 5:45 PM

            There IS, however, a difference between something “not being inexcusable” and “not being up for discussion, debate or dissection,” and I need us to remember that, though. No one is going to tell you you’re not entitled to your feelings, but that doesn’t absolve anyone of the ability to discuss what’s been left before us.

          • nat

            July 10, 2013 at 8:33 PM

            thank you for this. i thought i was missing something. manufactured or bestowed upon them by God himself, Kim K, Nicki, Lil Kim and all these chicks and their Fix-a-flat tails look a HAM and i feel sorry for them. I mean, it’s nothing to envy.

          • nat

            July 10, 2013 at 8:29 PM

            i keep seeing Kim Kardashian’s name being thrown around…we’re all in agreement that her a$$ is as false as nicki minaj’s a$$, right? lol….right? i mean…she can take a million x-rays and declare it before God, Buddha and 5 more white men and I’ll never buy it. Not because it’s a perfect sista booty…but because it looks like it was made at Lowes.

      • Gia Marie

        July 18, 2012 at 1:16 PM

        How u do that I’m flat as a pancakes

    • sydney

      July 10, 2013 at 8:30 PM

      I agree with i would get mine done too lol but by a real doctor. i wonder if they tell them what they put in there super glue really

  5. Gabrielle

    April 11, 2012 at 2:18 PM

    I agree fully with Michalet.
    Seeking enhancements isn’t wrong but these people go too far. If I have to HEAR another set of false lashes blinking next to me, I may scream.
    Butt injections of UNKNOWN substances? WTH???
    I mean how far does one need to go? That girl flew miles to her death! Unbelievable…
    Its sad. I don’t know the answer/resolve to this.

    • jeneal

      April 11, 2012 at 8:13 PM

      The answer is to start having self esteem.

    • Vee

      April 12, 2012 at 2:41 PM

      I agree with you Gabrielle there is nothing wrong with getting plastic surgery. People want a quick fix by going to some bogus doctor and end up dying and or having major health issues afterward. I went to a certified American Board of Plastic Surgeons on yesterday to do a consultation for a tummy tuck (I have mentioned before I dropped from 250lbs to my current weight of 141 right now) from 2003.

      He said I had loose skin and all these years I thought it was fat :) I felt good about myself but I will feel even better once I get rid of this extra skin under my belly button. He gave me a great consult and I felt very comfortable. He is my second surgeon I have consulted with thus far.

      Why do some people equate plastic surgery with low self-esteem or self hating? I am not sure but Vee’s not one of them *smiles*

      • Erika Nicole Kendall

        April 12, 2012 at 2:46 PM

        “Why do some people equate plastic surgery with low self-esteem or self hating?”

        *loud groan*

  6. Tressy

    April 11, 2012 at 4:01 PM

    Oh Gurrrlllll…..It seems like everyone is getting butt injections. Granted I live in S. Florida, so it might be more prominent down here. Basically, if you have money you’d get fat injected into your buttocks to give you a more rounded appearance. I think its called the Brazilian Butt Lift. The way that I can tell if someones booty has been cosmetically enhanced is through the body ratios. If you have a huge booty, chances are you’re going to have wide hips and thighs to match. Many times ppl down here will get surgery to only enhance their behind, not realizing that it doesn’t match their body frame. Its really apparent when you see women with broad/wide shoulders and a large behind. Its not a natural shape b/c generally women with larger shoulder frames don’t have huge booties. Think Sherri Sheppard from the view. (Said with love). I’m not being discriminate or spewing racial stereotypes; but the biggest consumers of Butt Implants in S. Florida are West Indian and European/Mestizo Hispanic women, and a few white women. They have different body frames then southern Black Americans, whereby their weight is sometimes distributed on top.
    Also keep in mind its supposed to be fat thats injected into your buttocks. So if you ever see a person who previously had a large stomach/back fat suddenly have a large behind…..but the body frame looks disportionate…ya’ll know whats up. You can tell when someone has had the surgery. The stomach is too flat, shoulders to broad, and the butt is to rounded out. It screams fakeness. When your behind is naturally large, it has dimples, its not always perky and perfectly rounded. Plus hips, thighs, and legs, and stomach should match. Thats my 2cents…hth! Love your website

    • Erika Nicole Kendall

      April 11, 2012 at 6:52 PM

      THIS is what I was looking for. You’re awesome. I’m like.. how do y’all even know someone has implants? Maybe I’m not looking enough. ROFL

    • Conni

      April 12, 2012 at 12:44 PM

      I have to disagree. I’m very petite. I am 5’1 on a good day and with no hips and petite thighs. I currently weigh 125 but at my heaviest weight I was 136. I’ve always been below 120 and my booty has always sat up, been perfectly round and very tight. It has unfortunately always drawn a lot of attention especially in junior high and high school. With the new trend of getting new bootys, people assume mine is fake. I’ve had guys ask if it’s a ‘brazilian booty lift’ (which I had no idea what that was until I read this) to girls asking how they can get theirs like mine. It’s just genetic I suppose combined with my height. It certainly catches people off guard when they see me from the front and then I turn around.

      My $.02….don’t be so quick to want to increase your butt size. With it comes a lot of attention you may not have bargained for. Love your bodies!

      • Empy

        November 9, 2013 at 4:42 AM

        Conni, do you have any children and how old are you? I only ask because I’m a little shorter than you and have a big butt, big legs and hips. However, in junior high, the way you describe yourself, is how my body was.After I had my children my hips “popped” out even more. So after you have your kids, your butt will “soften” and obtain a more “mature” shape and your hips may or may not “pop” out. But the person is right, that is how you can tell a fake booty, by the body proportions. Oh, and the sides of the butt, don’t forget the sides. If I could draw I would. But on a real butt like how you described yours it is evenly distributed from the top to the bottom. When women get injections/implants, there’s this little part of the bottom of the butt that looks “awkward” like it’s not supposed to be there, and the top is like one of those booty pops. I can spot a fake booty a mile away.

    • Clarissa

      May 15, 2012 at 4:07 PM

      You just described Nicki Minaj lol

    • myesha

      December 19, 2012 at 6:54 PM

      I never had problems with my booty its always been tight,firm,sits up high,and is plump.I’m okay with my booty it gets me alot of attention alot of which annoys me at times because I’m shy.I have big legs,thighs,and roundness in my hips…I remember being told that I didn’t have hips and that really hurt my feelings.I have way more than I used too but what alot of people don’t realize is that hips are your bones some people have wider bones some don’t and some are in between like me but by thighs make up for my hips not being as wide as I want them to be.

      Everyone looks up to Kim Kardashian,J.Lo,Nicki Minaj,Buffy the Body,CoCo Austin thinking that they can go from a pancake booty to a big donkey booty from exercises like squats,lounges,the Stairmaster but if you don’t already have a foundation for an ass and it’s not in your genetics there is no way in hell that you can get a big booty like that without surgery! Kim K has a Brazilian butt lift,CoCo has a Brazilian butt lift or implants,Nick has a fake ass,Black Chyna has a silicone ass,Lola Diamond has a fake ass,and the list goes on and on!Buffy the Body claims that her ass is real but why do we believe that when she used to be a stripper and strippers are notorious for getting ass injections,a bigger ass is how they get more money!

      Not all black women are capable of having a big ass and that’s okay a big booty is not worth your life!Exercise and you will get a nice,firm,toned booty that’s lifted it might not be big but it will look good in clothing!

      • Erika Nicole Kendall

        December 19, 2012 at 7:26 PM

        “Everyone looks up to Kim Kardashian,J.Lo,Nicki Minaj,Buffy the Body,CoCo Austin thinking that they can go from a pancake booty to a big donkey booty from exercises like squats,lounges,the Stairmaster but if you don’t already have a foundation for an ass and it’s not in your genetics there is no way in hell that you can get a big booty like that”

        Actually, that’s wrong. LOL

        • myesha

          December 19, 2012 at 8:14 PM

          No its not!Lol What I’m saying is that you can’t go from Sherri Shepard to J.Lo there’s no way!You can’t get a big donkey booty if it’s no booty from the start by working out!There’s a huge difference from having a small booty and having a flat booty…a small booty has the potential of being bigger because there’s some booty there a flat booty can get firm and more lifted but it will never be as plump you select where fat is distributed either you can build muscle there but it’s never going to be a big booty and that’s okay!

          • Erika Nicole Kendall

            December 19, 2012 at 8:22 PM

            “You can’t get a big donkey booty if it’s no booty from the start by working out!”

            Again, wrong. And leave Sherri out of this. LOL

  7. Shelter Bamu

    April 11, 2012 at 5:21 PM

    I’m seeing it all over the place too. It’s beyond insane. I’ll stick to squats and lunges thank you.

  8. Mary

    April 11, 2012 at 5:42 PM

    There is no reputable doctor that could perform this procedure in the US, because as of now there are NO approved medical procedures–or rather, no approved safe injectible substances in the United States.

  9. Toi

    April 11, 2012 at 6:32 PM

    A big booty isn’t worth losing your life over. And looking at some celebs, butt implants can look unsightly (hello, Nicki Minaj). The main issue here is that people are getting surgery in hotel rooms….any type of surgery is serious so if you’re going to get butt implants are any other cosmetic procedure, it should be done by a reputable doctor. Not some bootleg mofo with a syringe and a scalpel.

  10. Adriane

    April 11, 2012 at 8:14 PM

    OMG, my butt actually looks like that: huge hips and put-a-glass-on-it-booty. And, I’m sorry, but this thing gets in the way and I am ALWAYS excusing it. Ladies, it is not cute after you decide to grow up and you STILL have to carry it around.

  11. kiesh

    April 11, 2012 at 8:14 PM

    These people are ridiculous! I live near that hotel where those injections took place and all I can do is shake my head. I’m not a fan of plastic surgery but if you MUST, why not see a reputable surgeon and get something done that is proportionate to your frame? Like, to have little chicken legs then this big ole boxy and weird looking booty (hello Nicki Minaj) is just…ew.

  12. Indigo

    April 11, 2012 at 11:51 PM

    its the industry. Im a dancer and because of extensive training most dancers are small breasts, 90% of video girls and commercial dancers have breast augmentations and more recently video girls have been getting growth hormone shots, which if done “safely” cost about $3,500, in the butts. the reason these simple folks are “dying” for booty is because they want to take the low road and pay for a cheap imitation product and an non-surgical environment.

    in the industry girls are having ribs removed to give the appearance of a small waistline, “lunch-time lipo” around there abs and luv handles all to achieve a figure that isn’t even anatomically correct. I agree its foolishness perpetuated by a godless culture.

  13. Indigo.Marshales

    April 12, 2012 at 2:11 PM

    have you ever been on the bus and when it finally comes you dread having to stand up because you would have to stand up in front of a bus full of black folks looking at your square ass?

    have you ever been at the atm and had a passerby scream at you, you aint go no asssss damn! nooooo ass!

    you ever been chilling with your girls and start watching videos like, in them jeans, back that ass up, my neck my back and had a dumb look on your face because, you, a black girl, ain’t go no ass at all?

    you ever been talking to your friends and one of them said, damn, yo! she got BODY!

    you ever been around plus sized girls that talk about real women having curves and your plus sized but minus ass?

    you ever been reading comments on one of your favorite blogs and see a comment that reads , ”
    They have different body frames then southern Black Americans, whereby their weight is sometimes distributed on top. Excerpted from Q&A Wednesday: Can We Talk About Booty Implants, Please? | A Black Girl’s Guide To Weight Loss ”

    I am southern, I am black, and I don’t have an ass.
    It is not a norm in the black community to have an ass.

    It is one of the most horrible feelings, and worst insecurities to have as a woman. a black woman.

    you cant fill out jeans. you’re constantly pulling up your pants. your constantly being dissed by other black folks.

    once my best friend in the whole wide world told me that her girlfriend called people with flat asses sponge bob.

    ouch.

    the worst part is that people always say that white girls ain’t got no ass. i work with a lot of white folks and let me tell you. i rarely see white girls with flat asses. they may have little buts. but they at least have a round shape. it isn’t like a continuation of your back.

    some days i stand in front of the mirror and slide my hands down my back and hope to feel a curve, and i never do.

    black girls without asses are considered less authentic, less attractive, abnormal, weirdly shaped.

    you ever go to a club & a guy friend gets behind you to dance and you feel like the world is coming down on top of you because you have nothing to toot.

    dancing with no ass can be such a bad experience.

    i say all of this to say that to say that people have their reasons for wanting the butt injections. and i can speak for black girls who grew up with a no ass complex.

    your daily lipstick, your dove, your shampoo. all of these things have a high toxcity rate yet people use them everyday. think the fda wouldn’t put it on the market? think again and go to the skindeep website and learn that fda only test like 5% or less of most hygiene and beauty products. so while folks are criticizing folks for wanting or getting implants they do shit every day to risks there lives ( texting and driving, flying planes, sky diving)people do what they want to attain the quality of life they want to have. period. we all take risks.
    some people dont want to be called and feel like
    pancake ass
    or white girl ass
    or it looks like someone kicked your ass in

    this is the kind of ass that lunges couldn’t grow or any other type of excercise. there is a lack of fat in the backside.

    I think someone else said they would get butt augmentation in a heart beat. While, I always feel liek I would I dont think I wanna go under the knife. But I wish I could in a way.

    It’s been a real tough rode and self confidence is hard to maintain to not have an ass. Our society puts a lot of pressure on asses and stop blaming pop culture because its not always that. sometimes its our favorite blogs that may assume all black women have ass. it could also be our best friends, or strangers on a bus.

    So these are the kinds of folk who want/get implants.

    • Kaila Heard

      April 12, 2012 at 2:57 PM

      This.right.here. has to be one of my favorite comments I’ve come across on this blog. Thanks for the reminder that the ‘Black experience’ is actually made up of several different individuals who experience life in a different way.
      And the point that we all place our health at risk in various ways was a really nice touch too.

    • Tressy

      April 15, 2012 at 4:03 AM

      Hey Indigo Marshales!!

      You know what? You’re absolutely correct. I just wanted to say that I didn’t mean to offend you or anyone else out there. You reminded me the importance of thinking before I speak; as not to offend anyone. Thanks for reminding everyone that blacks are not the same, particulary in body frames. We’re a diverse array of individuals. I didn’t mean to throw you under a bus-I applaud your speaking out!

    • Michonna1474

      May 2, 2012 at 10:25 AM

      Amen Indigo! Your response hit the nail on the head. Kudos to you for being brave enough to speak your truth.

    • Tremilla

      May 16, 2012 at 11:27 AM

      My thoughts exactly. Well said.

    • Kee

      May 16, 2012 at 2:32 PM

      Indigo – this has got to be one of the best posts ever! So sad, but true. I suffer from not having a ass, it hurts when people would tease me about it. At 37 I am just coming to terms with my lil ole ass that is not shaped perfectly but it is mine.

    • Dominique

      October 10, 2012 at 4:31 PM

      Thank you ma’am.You’ve just described my life as a black women with no butt. I couldn’t have said it better myself.

    • Monique

      January 16, 2013 at 4:36 AM

      I feel you cuz this is me ALL DAY! Thank you!

    • Nicole

      May 30, 2013 at 7:21 AM

      Hello Indigo

      I just wanted to commend your on speaking the truth..real talk..it was like you were telling my life story! Except, I am the skinny black girl with no butt…It’s funny you mentioned sponge bob…Actually, my sister- in law had made a comment about women having sponge bob bodies and then she looked at me with pity after she put her foot in her mouth! Thank you for your comment, I can relate……ijs

  14. Indigo.Marshales

    April 12, 2012 at 2:16 PM

    one more thing to any of the folk who may be reading with a flatt butt. my girlfriend absolutely adores what i have. i am lucky, because all of the other people i have dated (women and men) have acted like my ass doesnt exist when it does, its just flat. but it can still be caress and slapped once in a while.

    i do believe we have to put more emphasis on the human spirit and not just outer appearance. you have to love yourself first and accept what you cannot change. and make sure whoever you are with do not ignore you because of your flaw, but appreciates you and welcomes you for it.

    • Shelia

      May 2, 2012 at 9:19 AM

      You rock, Indigo! I totally get this…I am plus sized so by the time I get my pants to fit my waist, I have extra room in the ass which means saggy pants…and it sucks. I to have considered going under the knife to fix it. I won’t but it’s definitely a fleeting thought…*flat booties UNITE* lol

  15. Jame

    April 12, 2012 at 5:57 PM

    I kinda have a “white girl” body. Big breasts, flat butt. I wish I had more roundness. And getting my squat game on. Lunges. Elliptical. Walking on the hills. And by golly, I notice an improvement. It is getting a little rounder and higher. Now if I contract, it almost looks the way that I want. And I hopw this continues as I work on losing weight.

    I am always jealous of those girls with a natural bubble butt. Or onion butt.

    But frankly, I am way too afraid of the knife for implants. I am going to stick with the exercise part and hope it does something.

  16. Nicky Nicole

    April 14, 2012 at 12:35 PM

    Well I am a black woman and I only have a pinch and trust me when I say a pinch of ass and you can only tell my certain things that I wear. I was teased but just like Tressy said earlier sometimes getting them “just don’t match your body” I’m ok with not having any ass at all. I mean I’m pretty inside and out, I have nice size breast (that I wish were a little smaller) but GOD intended for me to be the way that I am so I am content. I am proud to be a little larger on top than I am on the bottom and for any woman we should always be at peace with who GOD made us. Having ass won’t improve your life at all. So please don’t believe the hype!! All it does is draw unnecessary attention to you and if a man is gawking at you only because you have a “big booty” then clearly he’s not the one for you. It’s all about how you carry yourself. Have confidence in yourself, and know that you are beautiful whether or not you have this “coke-bottle shape that the media tries to display as “acceptable”.

  17. TeeMarie

    April 15, 2012 at 11:05 AM

    Thank you, plus a standing ovation Indigo.Marshales for putting one of my on-going nightmares into words. I can appreciate & identify with each of the scenarios you so vividly described. That issue is a real demon for some Black women who don’t fall into the “Black Chic with a big booty” category. When you see or hear others relate this issue to your faith & gratefulness to God, self esteem & an under-developed lower body work-out routine it can & does leave a mark. Thank You again Lady for speaking up & out on the behalf of the minority of Black women who deal with not having booty at all & the layers of mixed emotions that come along with it.

  18. Shelia

    May 2, 2012 at 9:11 AM

    I don’t have a “black girl booty”…and I hate it. And I will admit that I have considered if I ever get a bunch of money doing it…but the truth is it’s very unlikely, money or not that I will. I accept that I don’t have a great booty but I have a excellent rack lol…so breast men flock to men. Booty men, not so much. And that’s OK. Love you, accept you the way you are and others will to. Hence my love, being a booty man, loves me, little booty and all.

  19. sarabi

    May 2, 2012 at 9:40 AM

    My ex husband use to make fun of me having a flat butt all the time. He would always say ‘my next girlfriend or wife is gonna have an ass like Free’ (the former host of 106th and park). That really hurt me and I put my self down for years because of that. My new man loves and embraces my body and that’s all that matters. He put the confidence back in me and I thank him for that. He constantly tells me I’m beautiful and he would want me to change anything. Hell to me I feeel like I got a big ole badonnkadonk lmao. Love yourself ladies!

  20. RONNIE CEE

    May 2, 2012 at 10:23 AM

    There are so many posts that I would love to reply to however that would take a day and a half but anywhoooo… I used to say all the time that I have a butt complex.. I love big butts on men on women.. just let me see a big booty and I’m appreciative of it.. but the problem was I had none at all.. the shape was there but the weight didn’t exist.. I used to say let me come up on some money and I’m getting my shots.. nonetheless I never came up on that money.. lol.. I have to agree with working out to create that ultimate booty… I workout four times a week with two awesome personal trainers and thanks to them.. the booty is right. I’ve been asked when did ur booty get so big and I always answer when he started killing me with the bootylicious sessions.. that’s every squat known to man, every lunge ever create and a side of weights…. I thank my trainers every time I put on a dress and the bump is demanding attention.. so injections are a forgetful memory….

  21. val

    May 2, 2012 at 12:24 PM

    Step aerobics will get ya there and 1hr on elliptical 7 days a week…….your but will be super round and tight …..the butt is a muscle u have to build it…..

  22. miss blakk

    May 16, 2012 at 11:32 AM

    Very sad dat young women has to get all kinds of cosmetic surgery just to make themselves look and feel better

  23. Tremilla

    May 16, 2012 at 11:38 AM

    I always say I’d rather have abs over ass any day. But still a little bit more wouldn’t hurt. I just want to tone and shape it. Not against plastic surgery, but I am against a lack of common sense. Anyone considering surgery please go to a Licensed plastic surgeon. Save your family and friends the heartache and pain of knowing you died from butt injections! This surgery is a want and not a necessity. All surgeries and procedures are risky. And if someone convinces you to get procedures done in a hotel room instead of a hospital let them operate on your brain next because you’re truly a head case. Besides if you allow someone who looks like that pic above to work on you, you deserve whatever consequences and side effects that may come your way!

  24. BklynBabe

    May 16, 2012 at 12:10 PM

    Hi! Card carrying member of the Noassatall Club. It wasn’t even a big deal until the whole JLo, Kim Kardashian, Nicki Minaj trio hit. Now it’s all booty booty booty rocking errywhere. Lol.

    Thing is…I have never had a problem with guys not liking my flat booty. And I’m not pressed. If a man only wants me for a body part that’s ridiculous.

  25. Mishala

    May 30, 2012 at 2:21 PM

    I see so many of the comments talking about confidence issues in regards to their asses. Frankly, I don’t get it. I’ve always had an ass. At first, it just came naturally. After I had my daughter, I had to work…hard… to get my pancake back to where I wanted it to be. Pregnancy. Anyway. the point is that as far as shaping your body, exercise can do it. Getting something fake put into your body isn’t going to help the real issue.If your confidence is tied up into a physical attribute (or lack thereof), you’ve got a bigger problem than the fact you have saggy booty syndrome. So much of a woman’s view of herself comes from ridiculous media and stereotypes. I wish more females would stop and actually explore the reasons they have behind these desires for body alterations. Most of the time it’s coming from outside sources, and that is a problem. If you want to change your body because you know you’ve been lazy and not working out, I’m all for it. But to want to change because you think you’re supposed to look a certain way is just stupid to me.

  26. Dominique

    May 30, 2012 at 2:48 PM

    I remember years ago watching Ugly Betty and there was an episode about Brazilian Butt Lifts. I’m not 100% sure but I think that’s the one where they take fat from other areas of your body and put it in your butt. That’s what Countess Vaughn did. I think that’s safer but it’s more expensive and people are out to save money no matter how dangerous it may be.

    I also don’t think it means they hate themselves. They just want a change. Isn’t that why most people lose weight. I know some ppl have self-esteem issues but not all. If I had the money, I’d prob get lipo for my stomach and then focus one working out because that’s my biggest problem area. I don’t hate myself and I definitely don’t have low self-esteem.

  27. KareBareStare

    July 18, 2012 at 1:59 PM

    I grew up as a tomboy and didn’t start wearing fitted clothes until college. For me I having an ass wasn’t even a concern. However, I remember walking to my dorm with a friend and she yelled out loudly how I didn’t have an ass. I was extremely shocked! And that began the moment of my obsession with my backside. Lunges, squats, plies, stairs, name it I’ve tried it.
    I joke that God started to form my butt and stopped in the middle because it starts off round at the top and just drops off. My moment of resolution came while talking to my parents in the kitchen and realizing I had obtained my father’s more athletic build of nice legs sans the hips and ass. After yelling, “Ugh I have your body, this is your fault!” in the kitchen I decided this was the best gift I could have received. Yeah, I too joke and ponder about butt lifts but at this point, I’m 31 years old and I could really careless about it. It hasn’t hindered my love life nor my self-esteem. Yes, I would look KILLER in a dress but that’s only when I leave the room. I hope people would love to see me coming versus waiting for me to walk away. ;)

  28. prettyfly

    August 5, 2012 at 10:28 PM

    I think a lot of you ladies put too much effort. Thought. And emotion into worrying about who’s butt is real or fake. To go into detail about how far apart your shoulders should be etc is absurd!

    This is coming from someone who’s butt may be around nickis size or an inch or 3 smaller. I’m 5’9 and I’ve been this way my whole life . There is NO WAY to tell if a chicks butt is fake. The fake girls are the ones that get their hips and thighs pumped also to match.

    I’m not perfect by any means. But women immediately see me as their direct competition when I walk into a room. My hips are not perfectly shaped, I just happen to have a huge bottom. They become angry , once I had girls discussing my butt one said ” I think its real it has a cuff”! But Wtf are u in a club trying to decipher if my butt is real or fake!

    To me those women are the insecure ones, mad bc all the guys are checking for me. Get you together , and stop worrying about the next chick, that’s just super lame and weird

    • Erika Nicole Kendall

      August 6, 2012 at 10:04 AM

      Yeah… no disrespect, but this really isn’t about “competition” or looking at you like you’re a “man magnet” for whatever booty you may have.

      I really need people to stop projecting their issues into a topic. Just because you have negative experiences with women because of your figure – and really, that is unfortunate – doesn’t mean the topic is unworthy of discussion or deserves less “effort. Thought. And emotion.” If anything, the fact that women are rendered so insecure by a booty is only contributing to the conversation. For some reason, women are made to feel like we’re in competition with one another when, in all actuality, we’re not. It changes the way we treat one another. No woman should be in a club she [likely] paid to enter discussing another woman’s behind. If anything, that signals that there’s way more going on with HER than “my butt is just so awesome, women discuss it in the club” and her being jealous because “guys are checking for you.”

      The focus on having this giant booty makes life soooo unnecessarily frustrating. That’s worth discussion.

  29. Mz Informed

    August 22, 2012 at 1:34 PM

    For the sake of not rambling, I’m going to attempt to organize my thoughts, please bare with me:

    1) Your questions:
    —A) Yes. Celebrities are getting “butt enhancements”- Nicki Minaj is the most noted, but others like: Countess Vaughn (admitted), Diamond (rumored) & Kim K (rumored) exist.
    –B/C) Who gets them? Why? A far more complicated question. The decision making factors vary from person to person, but my guess is some combination of: accessibility, disposable income, level of social acceptance of the procedure, perception of beauty, level of risk aversion, education level (both academic & education about the procedure, risks, healing times, etc), and the view of self within the social matrix. (Notice that I didn’t explicitly include the media. I believe that the media influences the mainstream beauty standards (which influences the community’s standard of beauty), but the individual’s community has a greater influence on the person)
    —D) It’s more common than people think, but less common than the media makes it out to be. In the recent years, it has become more acceptable and more accessible.
    —E) Spotting them. Ehh… Again, a little complicated. For celebrities, people see the before/after photos, and make assumptions based on what they are seeing. In cases where the celebrity’s behind went from non-existent to orbital status= butt enhancement. Usually the body proportions are WAY out of wack, and I’ve noticed that the skin tends to look tight (similar to how a facelift looks if it’s been done poorly).

    As for the common folk (no offense intended)- I have to admit that I look at behinds- usually to compare to my own. There have been times where I’ve noticed small scarring or injection marks (thanks to the summer time weather), or cases where the behind is incredibly lopsided w/exaggerated hip to waist ratios. My guess is: butt enhancements. If it’s true or if it’s simply to soothe my ego about someone’s behind looking “better” than mine, I’m going with the tootsie pop owl commercial—> “The world may never know”

    –F) What is the procedure? there are typically 4 options: Butt Augmentation- take fat from other places in the body to add to the butt, implantation- insertion of implants (no clue what the material is), Butt lift, & “butt shots”- injections of hydrogel, pmma or silicon. (SN: most reputable plastic surgeons will not perform the injections due to its risky nature)

    2) My thoughts:
    A- I know quite a bit because I used to work for 2 prominent facial plastic surgeons. Like the good little worker, I made it a point to stay abreast of the industry trends. It was challenging to work in the office, but I was very lucky that they were ethical, honest & genuinely wanted to help their clients. Their main focus was on reconstructive, plastic surgery, so I’ve seen them educate patients, talk about the real reasons the patients wanted the procedures and refuse them service for un-necessary procedures. <~ much different conversation.

    B- Everyone has a story. Everyone has been discriminated against, hurt or treated unfairly— if not for 1 reason then for another. Booty implants aren't my cup of tea… but I'm not going to knock someone if that's what gets them going in the morning. My words to them are simply:

    Know the real motivation for this procedure. The unfortunate truth is: If your personal definition of beauty, leaves you uncomfortable within your own skin… Then, no superficial change will ever make you comfortable, you will fix 1 discomfort only to discover another.

  30. MsBridget

    December 19, 2012 at 6:45 PM

    I was actually reading an online excerpt of a book a stripper wrote telling about her ordeal with these but injections. It is unreal, they are going to hotels getting who knows what injected into them. In the book the girl said she asked the “woman” what the substance was and she said soybean oil and then she sealed up the injections with SUPER GLUE and cotton. I just don’t know why people would disfigure themselves like that.

    Oh and what about the woman who got the injections and then got an infection and had to get her arms and legs cut off! It is not worth it. Do some squats and lunges, do the stairmaster otherwise be happy with your flat ass!

  31. Erica Ardali

    February 13, 2013 at 4:05 PM

    I just don’t get it. I think we should learn to embrace our bodies, be comfortable within our own skin. I would love a rounder bottom but I am not going to go so far as surgery and definitely not by someone in a hotel room.

  32. Msteve

    May 29, 2013 at 7:25 PM

    Reading through these comments and I feel so bad for some of you. I have no ass at all. Never have and whatever I can work with with exercise is what I will have. My first reaction was “woe is me with my first world problems, just get over it” people are dying of hunger and dealing with bigger problems than living up to the stereotype of having a huge butt just because you are black. Then I realized yes, many of you are projecting your personal issues. Yes, I have had my family/friends pick at me for not having a huge but however, I have enough self esteem to know my worth isn’t any part of my anatomy. At the end of the day it’s about loving yourself and happiness. Will you really be happy if you get a larger butt or any cosmetic surgery or will this cause you to “fix your other imperfections”? What’s important for women to do is love and support each other. We don’t need to all have the same body we are all different and that’s what makes us beautiful. My health and life is worth more to me than having a huge butt. FYI Kim K and them all have had surgery. Lastly a peace of advise I received from my grandmother is “beauty fades and we all get old and will eventually die what’s on the inside is what really matters”. The older I get the more I realize how right that statement was. Looks fade and money can always be remade but stupid lasts forever huns. If your worth is tied up in your beauty rather than your health and life experiences then you my dears have major issues that no amount of cosmetic surgery will fix. I hope you all take this not in a negative way but positive. I’m far from perfect and am dealing with my own weight issues and will conquer them the healthy way. 5″3 and 250 lbs is what I’m working with. The last thing I’m concerned with is a huge butt, I’m more focused on getting healthy and living longer may that be a size 12, 2, or 0.

  33. Nicole

    July 10, 2013 at 8:58 PM

    Ahh well… there’s always padded butt enhancers… they’ve come along way. Bikinis with padding, boy shorts with padding and all that good stuff. How do you do the wide eyed smiley face? :) No pain, No illegal foreign substances in your body etc. etc.

  34. Dilia

    December 4, 2013 at 3:57 AM

    Okay so I worked at a gentlemen’s club for a while so I know real vs fake! I can spot a fake booty from a mile away. I’ve known a number of women that have gotten the Brazilian butt lift and butt implants. So I know how it looks and feels and most importantly how if works…so a Brazil butt lift basically is removing fat from an area (most do the waist, stomach) of the body and then depositing it in the buttocks area by injection. Post surgery the new fat feels hard and so constant massages are necessary in order to soften the area. Implants well they can be inserted on the side of the buttocks (near the butt hole) so they make a tiny incision on each side and insert the implants. Implant feels softer of course but don’t look as natural. Think breast implants — do they look natural? Also look up a video butt implant gone wrong it’s all over the internet and it’s an eye opener!

    Do an Internet search look up butt implants before and after pics, you’ll see pre and post surgery pics. Now there are also a number of celebs with butt enhancements – Nikki minaj, kim kardashian, and most of the video vixens – it’s not hard to see.

    Now how to spot one — well that’s easy look at the rest of the body — does it match the ass? If not! 9 times out of 10 it’s prob fake. Now keep in mind there are exeptions. A good example – Sasha Grey the former porn star she has a round full bottom yet she’s thin – her butt is real and I also have a friend like that as well but this isn’t too common.

    Anyhow… As far as working to enhance your fugure that is 100% possible! I hate people that say exercise can only do but so much – diet and exercise IF DONE CORRECTLY can work WONDERS!!! So yes! You can make your somewhat small but fuller, rounder..I’ve done it! But again the right way!
    Good luck ladies and lets try and resort to natural remedies before going under the knife. :)

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