Comments on: Stop Defeating Your Weight Loss Efforts Before You Begin

By: Loretta

Loretta — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 02:09:54 +0000

I love how these gems just pop up on my facebook page.

This post is just real and wonderful.

By: Thornetta

Thornetta — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 16:09:28 +0000

….and so my journey begins. Thank you.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 01:40:49 +0000

Hello Ericka,

I thank God for you, this site was a true gem to find. I fell so happy right now to see your experience and be relieved how much you has identified with me. I am right where you started at 330lbs; and I am scared to death of dissappointing myself once again from not seeing enough results. So I make excuses to not even try my hardest, because I don’t want to see that all my efforts will no be good enough or I am not good enough to make it. Thanks so much for sharing your life and experiences especially in this area. My heart feels so full of hope right now.

By: Monica M.

Monica M. — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 19:29:22 +0000

I have completely defeating weigh-loss efforts/ thoughts and idea. I know my reasons for wanting to loose weight and what I hope weight lost will do for me. I’ve been and still am like many americans only thinking of weight loss in the vantiy aspect. I am on a whole new wave link after reading this blog a lifestyle change is in order for me . I always thought the “GOAL” of weight loss was lossing weight but I see now I’ve been looking at this the wrong way. Thank you for writing this It has helped me see this journey that I’m going to embark on so much clearer. I look forward to reading more of your informative post.

By: Michelle of Chellbellz

Michelle of Chellbellz — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 15:24:25 +0000

I know this is an old post, but this is a problem that I am still struggling with. I get so tempted to stray from eating right, or when i’m sitting at home all day applying for jobs I basically just don’t feel like getting up to pop in a DVD. So i started figuring out something to keep myself busy. I take full advantage of the free pilates classes i have. I also see that cooking and planning is helping me out a lot.

thanks so much for writing this. I have to bookmark this to come back to it. I have to keep telling myself that i’m worth more then mcdonalds which i haven’t eaten in a long time, or tell myself i’m worth more then a soda when I got out with the family. it’s a long process for me, but things are getting better as i go along.

By: Curlstar

Curlstar — Fri, 17 Jun 2011 16:52:39 +0000

“I looked at the way I love my child and wondered why I didn’t pour that same effort into myself..”

That line right there is the icing on the cake. That is why I am working on changing the game for my health.

By: Briiz

Briiz — Sun, 22 May 2011 16:31:30 +0000

Thank you for writing this! I’ve been contemplating what to do with my weigh loss plan for a while now. It feels like so much pressure to lose weight, especially if I start something and don’t finish or stick with it. (which is my usual habit) It makes so much more sense to forget about losing weight and focus on changing your lifestyle. I’m sure I’ve heard this before but I guess it has to come from a different place sometimes for it to sink in.

Again thanx and great job with the site.

By: Brittany

Brittany — Sat, 23 Apr 2011 19:36:14 +0000

Thanks for writing about this topic. I do definitely believe my high self esteem in the way I look has definitely derailed me from being healthy. Because I’m what you call a “happy fat”, I have not been on my weight loss efforts like I really need to be. Thanks for the post. This is the time I will take it seriously because as you said, it is not about physical appearance but being healthy! I realize that now! Wish me luck!

By: Debbie Estelle

Debbie Estelle — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 19:28:29 +0000

In the past, I’d written something similar on my spark page. (I’m starting over… Have gained 50 pounds since I’ve started).

I think sometimes we are so afraid to face the fact we are unhealthy (fat even) that we set out on this race to PROVE that ‘skinny’ isn’t the goal.

I agree that it isn’t… but, as you said, does that put us in a place where we sabotage our own journey’s to health? Like ‘I’m beautiful reguardless! Hmmpphh!” … And yes love, you are, but that may not be the point…

A lot of issues to deal with! Thank you for being so open. You have inspired me! I’m so off the path right now (in terms of thinking ‘how the HELL did I get here’) that I almost forgot it truly doesn’t matter WHERE (what weight) you start at just start! Start toward a healthy life!

Thank you!

By: Divadiya

Divadiya — Fri, 14 Jan 2011 04:10:46 +0000

Thanks for sharing that story. I love your
honesty….(I’own need) classic!

By: Kenya

Kenya — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 00:01:42 +0000

“I care for myself like I care for my child, because I love myself like I love my child.” THAT right there is paramount, because anyone who has a child knows that a mother’s love for their child is inexplicable. Thank you for that jewel, that will help me look at a lot of things that I do regarding myself differently.

By: Kait

Kait — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 13:58:19 +0000

What a way to start my morning!

Too many people are focused on the ‘loss’ and not the health and fail to realize that being healthy doesn’t come with a size. It took me a long time to realize that the numbers which really matter come from within. It is so reassuring to see someone such as yourself, who is clearly respected and well-followed, is espousing the ideals of whole foods, exercise, and good ol’ health. Thank you for all of your posts and inspiration.

By: Tina Fite

Tina Fite — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 15:56:49 +0000

Thank you Erika for sharing this! I love myself more now than I have ever loved me before and I have noticed how much more I am losing now than previous efforts and it is all about how I transformed my thinking, then my food and exercise. I have passed this on to others that I know are on a weight loss journey as well and I hope they read and apply it to their lives. Thanks again!!!

By: Gina M.

Gina M. — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 01:41:23 +0000

Your last paragraph is right on the money–as a country there would be a lot more healthier women if we all followed that advice. (Men should of course follow it too, but they don’t always seem to pour themselves into their kids like women seem to…)

By: Aja B.

Aja B. — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 02:02:00 +0000

When I first learned of your blog, I was just starting my own weight loss journey. I have been fat all my life. And like you, I went through my “I don’t need to be skinny to prove my self-worth” phase. I was a complete cheerleader for the “big & beautiful” movement. I had to take a real HARD look at myself and my life, though, and basically got tired of–well–being fat. And hiding behind my fat.

I say all that to say–thank you! Thank you for sharing your story. You have completely inspired me and serve as a great source of motivation as I continue on my weight loss & healthy living journey.

By: Hidi

Hidi — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 00:12:27 +0000

“…a healthy relationship with food, and a respect for herself that included knowing how and when to take care of onesself. ”

-This is very important; I cosign 100%.

“The effort should be placed within making small changes to eat and live healthier.”

-Yes, this is what really matters not the number on the scale.

I am so happy that you decided to take better care of yourself because that is what really matters.

God Bless you and I wish you the best.

By: Martica

Martica — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 17:14:20 +0000

Wow! Congratulations! I’ve been on a similar weightloss journey and am loving my new healthy lifestyle. Keep it up!

Martica

By: Cryssy

Cryssy — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 15:39:13 +0000

everytime you share a part of your story, you share a part of your soul. I commend you for that. It is because of folks like you who are willing to be OPEN and HONEST about ish like this that we all can grow and learn.

Life style change is the KEY!!! you can diet all you want but if you don’t make a major life change all your efforts will be in vain.

There are many people with the Monique syndrome out there. Again it is not about the actual number you weigh its about being healthy!

Good job sis!

By: "DIVA"

"DIVA" — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 09:30:00 +0000

THANKS FOR SHARING YOUR STORY.. I FEEL YOU GIRLFRIEND IN EVERY AREA THAT YOU HAVE SPOKE UPON. 7MONTHS AGO I HAD WEIGHTLOSS SURGERY AND I HAVE LOST OVER 100LBS.. PRAISE GOD FROM WHOM ALL BLESSSINGS FLOW… YOU SAID IT RIGHT WHEN YOU SAID THAT IT IS A LIFE STYLE CHANGE. I THANK GOD FOR THE UNDERSTANDING OF COMMITING TO HEALTY EATING AND EXECRISE.KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK AND MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS YOU MY SISTER…

By: Kels

Kels — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 23:56:31 +0000

I love it! I keep saying to myself and others that it’s a lifestyle change, preceded by a mindset change.