http://blackgirlsguidetoweightloss.com/health-news/what-about-your-friends-are-they-helping-or-hindering-your-progress/ Culturally Sound Tools, Tips, and Advice Fri, 30 Jul 2010 02:38:55 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 http://blackgirlsguidetoweightloss.com/health-news/what-about-your-friends-are-they-helping-or-hindering-your-progress/#comment-399 julie Sun, 10 Jan 2010 07:07:52 +0000 http://blackgirlsguidetoweightloss.com/?p=114#comment-399 I'm having a confusing experience with a friend who had WLS, we were once the same size, then she gained about 100, and I lost 50. She's not overweight anymore, but doesn't absorb fat, so wants to eat pizza at 11 pm, doesn't bother with veggies, and it's weird to hang with her sometimes. I'll go out and three of them will all get a sandwich after a few drinks, and I'll just sit there. I love her dearly, but it trips me out. Plus she smokes a lot of cigarettes, and it makes me want to as well. I’m having a confusing experience with a friend who had WLS, we were once the same size, then she gained about 100, and I lost 50. She’s not overweight anymore, but doesn’t absorb fat, so wants to eat pizza at 11 pm, doesn’t bother with veggies, and it’s weird to hang with her sometimes. I’ll go out and three of them will all get a sandwich after a few drinks, and I’ll just sit there. I love her dearly, but it trips me out. Plus she smokes a lot of cigarettes, and it makes me want to as well.

]]> http://blackgirlsguidetoweightloss.com/health-news/what-about-your-friends-are-they-helping-or-hindering-your-progress/#comment-44 Tracy Sun, 11 Oct 2009 18:23:24 +0000 http://blackgirlsguidetoweightloss.com/?p=114#comment-44 This article is SOOOO true!! I know several friends that can benefit from working out and eating healthier, but they don't. It's something that has to come from within. Until you are ready to commit, you will only sit around feeling envious of those who have started and begun to see progress. It happened to me. I would see friends start Weight Watchers or some exercise regimen and begin to drop pounds. It would motivate me to an extent, but not enough to get my butt to the gym... at least not consistently. Then, as they became more and more successful, I got more and more resentful. I also had a problem with a "skinny" friend. She was my bestie and could (and would) eat ANYTHING that she wanted without gaining weight. Silly me would be eating right along with her. Over time, I was gaining weight here and there, but *I* didn't really notice. Everyone else did though! I was mad that my BEST friend didn't bother checking my behavior and informing me that I was getting a little too chunky. Now, I'm struggling to get the weight off. Personally, I think it's "crabs in a barrel" syndrome. Some of your "friends" don't really want to see you get into better shape, as it will (1) take shine away from them or (2) highlight their own shortcomings. Misery loves company and fat people love to have other fat people to support their fatness. If you get healthier and slimmer, who will they have to be fat with? This article is SOOOO true!! I know several friends that can benefit from working out and eating healthier, but they don’t. It’s something that has to come from within. Until you are ready to commit, you will only sit around feeling envious of those who have started and begun to see progress. It happened to me. I would see friends start Weight Watchers or some exercise regimen and begin to drop pounds. It would motivate me to an extent, but not enough to get my butt to the gym… at least not consistently. Then, as they became more and more successful, I got more and more resentful. I also had a problem with a “skinny” friend. She was my bestie and could (and would) eat ANYTHING that she wanted without gaining weight. Silly me would be eating right along with her. Over time, I was gaining weight here and there, but *I* didn’t really notice. Everyone else did though! I was mad that my BEST friend didn’t bother checking my behavior and informing me that I was getting a little too chunky. Now, I’m struggling to get the weight off. Personally, I think it’s “crabs in a barrel” syndrome. Some of your “friends” don’t really want to see you get into better shape, as it will (1) take shine away from them or (2) highlight their own shortcomings. Misery loves company and fat people love to have other fat people to support their fatness. If you get healthier and slimmer, who will they have to be fat with?

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