Standards of Black Beauty

Every so often, it’s important to re-evaluate the “standard” for beauty when it comes to women of color and how it affects us every day. Are our standards healthy? Are they beneficial to young women? Let’s talk!

Lil’ Kim is Not a Freak Show, She’s What We Should Expect

By | April 25th, 2016|Beauty, Standards of Black Beauty|

We tell women it is important to be beautiful, and being beautiful requires fair skin. Shouldn’t we expect women to go to great lengths to become beautiful?

Just Say No to Waist Trainers

By | November 9th, 2015|Beauty, Body Image, Conscious Consumerism, Debunking The Myths, Fad Diets, Standards of Black Beauty|

Your waist trainer causes UTIs, incontinence, temporary heart failure, indigestion, high blood pressure, nerve damage, and more. Read how inside.

When Woman Dies From Booty Injections in Salon, Salon PACKS UP AND LEAVES

By | March 31st, 2015|Beauty, Body Image, Standards of Black Beauty|

Stop doing this. Stop your loved ones from doing this. Staple them to a seat and force them to stay there, for all I care.

4-Year Old Teaches You How to Silence a Hater

By | March 10th, 2015|Beauty, Standards of Black Beauty|

I'm going to avoid taking the natural bait of "why would a little boy be calling a little girl who, ostensibly, looks like him... 'ugly?'" I mean, I'm going to try. Miss Cici A beautiful little girl was caught on camera with her Mommy having a discussion about how her day went at [...]

Who Should I Allow To Call Me Fat?

By | February 25th, 2015|Beauty, It's All Mental, My Journey, Standards of Black Beauty, The Op-Eds|

A little while ago, I asked the wonderful, amazingly awesome readers of this site who they allow to bring their weight to their attention. Lots of great comments, with a couple of standouts below: I think people who really have your best intentions at heart are allowed to express their concerns to you about becoming [...]

On Colorism, #LightGirls, #DarkGirls, and Complicated Beauty for #BlackGirls

By | January 20th, 2015|Beauty, Standards of Black Beauty|

My questions and thoughts on colorism, inspired by the recent chatter surrounding the recently-released documentary, Light Girls.

“Dating While Fat And Feminist,” And The Nasty Things You Learn About People After You Lose Weight

By | January 15th, 2015|Social Construct, Standards of Black Beauty|

"You wind up making friends with guys who admit their dating preferences freely, knowing that - since you're no longer fat - they won't offend you..."

Brazilian ‘Slave to Beauty’ Shows Negative Side Effects of Booty Surgery

By | January 8th, 2015|Beauty, Standards of Black Beauty|

Woman injected with chemicals that made her body rot from the inside out; my thoughts on when enough will be enough.

Woman Wanders Hollywood in a Bikini to Teach People About Body Image

By | December 18th, 2014|Body Image, Standards of Black Beauty|

Could YOU do it?

My Thoughts on Gabourey “Gabby” Sidibe

By | December 4th, 2014|Beauty, Latest News, Standards of Black Beauty|

I tried really hard to leave this topic alone because, quite frankly, I don't think my opinion matters much. This ties into another post that I have coming up behind the "Who's Allowed To Call You Fat?" topic but really... I have no stock in neither her successes nor her failures, so my interest is [...]

Rant: Model Arrested For Booty Injection-Related Homicide

By | November 28th, 2014|Beauty, Body Image, Standards of Black Beauty|

Pebbelz is King/Smooth/XXL/Booty mag alumni, right? She lied, for years, about having injections...

Open Thread: The Most Heart Breaking Email I’ve Ever Received

By | October 27th, 2014|Beauty, Standards of Black Beauty|

A teen begs me to help her to lose weight...but is it for the wrong reasons?

Retouching, Body Image and The Photoshop Diet: When Playboy Models Aren’t Even Enough

By | October 3rd, 2014|Body Image, Standards of Black Beauty|

Not even the Playboy girls are naturally "perfect."

Black Women, Body Image And Our Relationship To The Life-Sized Barbie

By | September 15th, 2014|Beauty, Body Image, Standards of Black Beauty|

What does your relationship with Barbie look like?

Black Women, Media Erasure, and #BootyGate

By | September 15th, 2014|Beauty, Standards of Black Beauty|

A few quick words on my essay about Vogue's Era of the Big Booty article, and erasure of black women's contributions to beauty at large.

Size Politics: Dating, Salaries, And Friendships

By | August 31st, 2014|Beauty, Standards of Black Beauty, The Op-Eds|

Revisiting the idea of "dating while overweight," and what I learned from the debate that ensued.

From Retouching To Plastic Surgery: Minorities And Assimilation

By | August 22nd, 2014|Beauty, Standards of Black Beauty|

After writing so much about retouched pics of women, let's talk about surgery...

Quick Quote: “I Remember a Time When I, Too, Felt Unbeautiful”

By | August 22nd, 2014|Beauty, Body Image, Standards of Black Beauty|

"What is fundamentally beautiful is compassion for yourself and for those around you. That kind of beauty enflames the heart and enchants the soul."

“If They Hadn’t Told Me I Was Ugly, I Never Would Have Searched for My Beauty”

By | May 2nd, 2014|Beauty, Body Image, Quick Quotes, Standards of Black Beauty|

"...And if everyone had always laughed at my jokes, I wouldn't have figured out how to be so funny. If they hadn't told me I was ugly, I never would have searched for my beauty. And if they hadn't tried to break me down, I wouldn't know that I'm unbreakable."

Black Women, Our Bodies & Perceptions of Beauty: Straight Hair

By | April 17th, 2014|Beauty, Black Hair, Standards of Black Beauty|

What if you swapped your hair with your body in your list of priorities? This wouldn't even be an issue then, would it?