A Moment of Silence

A Moment of Silence

BGG2WL fam, today will serve as a moment of silence for the loss of my dear friend, Crystal Davis. She passed away at age 32, leaving behind two beautiful girls both under the age of 4, one of whom she just gave birth to a few months ago.

Please, please tell your loved ones that they are appreciated, and do it often.

Please also keep her children, family and loved ones in your thoughts during this holiday season. There’s never a “right time” to lose a loved one, but the holidays seem to make it especially difficult.

Lastly, I strongly urge all of you to consider donating bone marrow. Cryssy, as she was lovingly known, succumbed to sickle cell anemia which can be cured by bone marrow transplants. The likelihood of being able to lessen someone else’s suffering increases with every new person who registers to be a donor, so please read up and consider registering. Apparently only 1 in every 540 registrants goes on to donate marrow, but those numbers are skewed for us because the need for African American donors is great.

My soul is completely crushed, you guys. I’m doing my best to keep it together, because I know that’s what Cryssy would want. She is a part of this community, has supported BGG2WL since the very beginning and I credit her support – among others of you – for what we are able to accomplish today. In her name, take a few moments today to dust that shit off your shoulders, shake your head one good time to get rid of all that negativity, and life your life to the fullest. That is my last image of Cryssy, and that is what she left all of us with. I know she’d love to leave it to you, as well.

The only thing keeping me from breaking down right now is the thought of planning a bone marrow drive in her honor. If any of you have any advice, tips, resources or anything, please leave it in the comments. Crying helps, but I feel better when I can do something.. anything.

Take care of yourselves, family. I need to go do the same. I love y’all.

By | 2017-06-10T11:47:09+00:00 December 16th, 2011|About The Site|42 Comments

About the Author:

The proud leader of the #bgg2wlarmy, Erika Nicole Kendall writes food and fitness, body image and beauty, and more here at #bgg2wl. After losing over 150lbs, Kendall became a personal trainer certified in fitness nutrition, women's fitness, and weight loss by the National Academy of Sports Medicine. She is also certified in sports nutrition by Precision Nutrition. She now lives in New York with her husband and children, and is working on her 6th and 7th certifications because she likes having alphabet soup at the end of her name.


  1. Ky G December 16, 2011 at 10:53 AM - Reply

    My condolences Erika!

    My prayers go out to all of her friends, family, significant other and most importantly, those 2 babies.

  2. Melissa December 16, 2011 at 11:03 AM - Reply

    I am so very sorry for your loss and pray for a peaceful heart, mind and soul for you and her family during this time. I pray for that your tears and cries turn into smiles and laughter as you celebrate her. Know as long as your heart carries her, she’s righ there.

    I’m a believer that if you have something to give, give freely. This includes blood, bone marrow and whatever else you can. I’m a registered “Be The Match” person and will take this story for the chance to push others to do so. Especially among African Americans and as a the primary carriers of the sickle cell trait (including me).

  3. Tachae December 16, 2011 at 11:11 AM - Reply

    Very sorry for your loss. I’ve lost an aunt to this as well.

  4. milaxx December 16, 2011 at 11:28 AM - Reply

    So sorry for the lost of your friend. My sincere condolences to you and her family.

  5. Crystal M. December 16, 2011 at 11:33 AM - Reply

    Hello, Erika

    I’ve never commented before but I am a frequent and faithful reader of your articles. I decided to comment today because I know exactly what you are going through because I too have lost a friend, my best friend of 19yrs to sickle cell 8 months ago. Every day I miss her and some days I still find myself hearing her voice and feeling her presence. I would love to participate in your up and coming bone marrow drive. I am a south Floridian, I reside West Palm Beach area. The time will come for all of us but if we can do the smallest thing to help someone else just once, I’d love to be a part of it as well. Again, sorry for your loss.

  6. Chiwunma December 16, 2011 at 11:39 AM - Reply

    it is well dear! The Lord will see you through…may He alone grant her family total and absolute comfort to bear this loss. do keep it together ok? *hugs^

  7. Dawn A. December 16, 2011 at 11:48 AM - Reply

    I am very sorry for your loss Erika. Both the hubs and I are fighting colds right now, but once we shake it, we will both go to see if we can become donors.

  8. Lauren (PB&G) December 16, 2011 at 12:21 PM - Reply

    I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.

  9. Annette December 16, 2011 at 12:35 PM - Reply

    I am so sorry. We lost a daughter to this in 2008 and it didn’t have to happen. My thoughts are with you and her family. Take care

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